my s/o and I have 2 little girls, who will be 8 and 3.5 by wedding time and will be our flower girls and then join us for our vows. We have a nephew who will be a month shy of 4 who'll be the ring bearer, and his sister will be just barely 2. Is that too young to be a flower girl? are 3 too many? eould it be rude to have our nephew but not our niece? I don't want to exclude her from the party but idk how else to have her. My future sister-in-law is one of my bridesmaids and her husband is a groomsman as well.
Re: how can i incorporate my niece?
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http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html
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Maybe you should consider letting your FSIL walk up the aisle with her, and have her immediately seated in the front row with the baby. Holding a 2 year old baby standing still for 15-45 minutes, the length of your ceremony, and trying to keep her quiet and somewhat still is going to be a huge pain in the ass. And, I imagine, very distracting while you are trying to save your vows.
There is a reason that kids (flower girls, ring kids) are usually seated right after walking up the aisle.
Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:
http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html
http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/
She can still be a bridesmaid if she sits down. Lots of people who are in the wedding party sit down after walking up the aisle for various reasons. She can still be in the program, still wear the dress, still walk down the aisle. She would just be seated in the front row with her kid.
I still think wrangling a toddler right before walking down the aisle, and then trying to convince them to be quiet while standing in one spot for 15 minutes, directly next to the bride while she is trying to say her vows is a bit much to ask of a 2 year old. And, have your tried standing in one spot for 15 minutes holding a 15 pound kid, in a dress, and possibly heels? that is going to be uncomfortable for your FSIL.
If you don't want to have her sit after walking down the aisle, I would work on alternatives. Are there seriously no other family members or friends that your FSIL knows that is coming to the wedding that could hold the baby for 15 minutes? A a close friend?
Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:
http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html
http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/
I think the OP meant the FSIL's dad passed, and mom isn't welcome. As is, there are no grandparents of the 2 year old to attend and hold the little cherub, since FSIL's husband is in the wedding as well.
I get that she is an experienced baby wearer. But, I still think a 2 year old on the back of a bridesmaid is going to be ridiculously distracting for you and your guests.
Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:
http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html
http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/
I just emailed her and asked what she'd like. Haven't heard back yet but no mater what I'll just have a chair reserved in the front for her even if she chooses to wrap. I feel better having a few options depending on the mood of the day