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Help---HATE the dress color the bride chose

welshblondie85welshblondie85 member
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I'm a pretty light-haired, fair skinned blonde, with a good bit of rosy tones to my skin. Now I *can* hold a tan, so if that would help, I can definitely get quite a bit darker. The problem is, the bride chose a VERY pale pink color (think Alfred Angelo tea rose/ Donna Morgan blush) color for her bridesmaids. Two are her sisters, and like the bride, are very pale milky skinned, but with gorgeous dark hair. Sort of Snow-White esque. The other bridesmaid besides me is naturally quite tan, and darker hair. Then there's me.

I have no idea how to wear this color--its a color I very actively avoid in my personal life, because I've found it really washes me out, makes me look pale and sickly Unfortunately, the bride is set on that color. So there's no helping that. Will be long, chiffon, palest pink dresses. Now my question is--anyone have any ideas on how to make this NOT look hideous on me? Get a tan? No tan? Darker eye makeup? Less eye makeup but more blush? I'm at a loss here, and trying to make the best of a not-great situation. Any help anyone can offer/advise would be very helpful--I just want to not feel or look like total crap at the wedding, but I have no experience with this color.

Maybe would help to buy a cheap shirt or two in that pale pink-y color, to see if that might help me find ways to mitigate the damage?
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  • lilacck28lilacck28 member
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    I think you'll look better than you think you will. I'd say go for some bronzer and rosy blush, and something like the light smokey eyeshadow of the top picture or some dark upper lash liner like Gweneth has. If a fake tan makes you feel better, then go for that too. But as for a real tan... cancer! 
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  • RebeccaFlowerRebeccaFlower member
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    I think this is one of those things that we make a bigger deal out of than anyone would ever think of it. I think you're making too big of a deal of it and I'm sure no one would ever think you were sickly just because you're wearing pale pink. 
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  • STARMOON44STARMOON44 member
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    Almost nude dresses have been big on the red carpet lately. I actually think it will look really pretty. I personally wouldn't tan.

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  • thisismynickname2thisismynickname2 member
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    I totally understand where you're coming from. I'm pale and blonde myself and love that color. A blunt coworker of mine actually said to me, "Hm, that's not a good color on you. Washes you out."  Ohhhh kay then.

    Keep googling photos like the dresses shown above and study their make-up for tips.  I had a friend who is a professional make-up artist do my makeup once, and she showed me the proper bronzer and proper blush to use to not look so pale.  Before she helped me I was totally clueless on colors that suited my skin tone.  Perhaps get a pro to help you.  Good luck! 
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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    edited June 2014
    welshblondie85 said:
    I'm a pretty light-haired, fair skinned blonde, with a good bit of rosy tones to my skin. Now I *can* hold a tan, so if that would help, I can definitely get quite a bit darker. The problem is, the bride chose a VERY pale pink color (think Alfred Angelo tea rose/ Donna Morgan blush) color for her bridesmaids. Two are her sisters, and like the bride, are very pale milky skinned, but with gorgeous dark hair. Sort of Snow-White esque. The other bridesmaid besides me is naturally quite tan, and darker hair. Then there's me.

    I have no idea how to wear this color--its a color I very actively avoid in my personal life, because I've found it really washes me out, makes me look pale and sickly Unfortunately, the bride is set on that color. So there's no helping that. Will be long, chiffon, palest pink dresses. Now my question is--anyone have any ideas on how to make this NOT look hideous on me? Get a tan? No tan? Darker eye makeup? Less eye makeup but more blush? I'm at a loss here, and trying to make the best of a not-great situation. Any help anyone can offer/advise would be very helpful--I just want to not feel or look like total crap at the wedding, but I have no experience with this color.

    Maybe would help to buy a cheap shirt or two in that pale pink-y color, to see if that might help me find ways to mitigate the damage?
    You wear the dress and keep your opinions about the color to yourself.  You sound overly obsessed with your appearance.  The bride asked you to be in her wedding party because she is your FRIEND.  It is not a beauty pageant. 
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  • Lauderdale PinkLauderdale Pink member
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    I don't think you are being self-centered, I am opting to think that you want to look great for your friend on her big day.  If you think the fake tan will help, and you have a SAFE option, then go for it.  If not, consult some specialists at the make-up counters at the local department store and see what they suggest.  Ask the bride what she wants you to do for jewelry.  Often, a slightly darker color at the neck and ears is all you need to offset the paler colors.
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  • doeydodoeydo member
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    Below are some BMs who are wearing similar colours to what you and the other BMs will be.  The fair skinned, light haired ones look nice, IMO:
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    And on the red carpet:
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  • QueerFemmeQueerFemme member
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    Consider wearing a darker lip color and darker smokey eyes. It will be fine.

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    Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:

    http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/

    http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html

    http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/

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  • Bubblegum5586Bubblegum5586 member
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    I think a nice sun kissed tan would help.

    I know it sucks to wear a color you don't like but I think most BMs have been there you just work with what you can. I am also pale and blonde hair and I had to where an orange dress once. Definitely a color I never wear! Another wedding I was in we wore dark red dresses and we had a redhead in the WP and I heard her snarky comments a few times about the bride making her wear red.
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  • djfiveninedjfivenine member
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    I agree with the makeup recommendations above - as well as a SPRAY TAN!  Even a slight "sun kissed" spray tan makes a huge difference in photos.  I am blonde and though not really "fair"... I don't like tanning so I always get spray tans when I am in weddings.  I feel like this will solve your problem :)
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  • offensivekitten2offensivekitten2 member
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    Not your wedding, not your color decision. For what it's worth, I have similar coloring, and pale pink is one of the few colors that really compliments it. I think you're avoiding one of your ideal colors for no real reason.

    That being said, even if the bride chose rainbow dresses, you'd out of line pitching a fit about it.



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  • mysticlmysticl member
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    CMGragain said:
    welshblondie85 said:
    I'm a pretty light-haired, fair skinned blonde, with a good bit of rosy tones to my skin. Now I *can* hold a tan, so if that would help, I can definitely get quite a bit darker. The problem is, the bride chose a VERY pale pink color (think Alfred Angelo tea rose/ Donna Morgan blush) color for her bridesmaids. Two are her sisters, and like the bride, are very pale milky skinned, but with gorgeous dark hair. Sort of Snow-White esque. The other bridesmaid besides me is naturally quite tan, and darker hair. Then there's me.

    I have no idea how to wear this color--its a color I very actively avoid in my personal life, because I've found it really washes me out, makes me look pale and sickly Unfortunately, the bride is set on that color. So there's no helping that. Will be long, chiffon, palest pink dresses. Now my question is--anyone have any ideas on how to make this NOT look hideous on me? Get a tan? No tan? Darker eye makeup? Less eye makeup but more blush? I'm at a loss here, and trying to make the best of a not-great situation. Any help anyone can offer/advise would be very helpful--I just want to not feel or look like total crap at the wedding, but I have no experience with this color.

    Maybe would help to buy a cheap shirt or two in that pale pink-y color, to see if that might help me find ways to mitigate the damage?
    You wear the dress and keep your opinions about the color to yourself.  You sound overly obsessed with your appearance.  The bride asked you to be in her wedding party because she is your FRIEND.  It is not a beauty pageant. 
    Or she just understands how she looks in certain colors. I am very fair. If you take a flash photo of me in white or very pale pink I look dead and that's with makeup on.  I don't think any bride wants pictures that look like that in her album. Also, where did you get the idea she isn't keeping her opinion to herself (posting here doesn't count)? She gets she's stuck with the dress, she just wants to try to look her best.  There is nothing wrong with that.  
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