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We both have divorced parents...

maiorielloam6maiorielloam6 member
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I like when invitations say "Mr. and Mrs John Doe formally request... blah blah blah", or Mr and Mrs John Doe and Mr and Mrs Jack Smith..." but we both have divorced parents who have remarried.. the thought of putting all four names gives me a headache and i'm sure would look ridiculous on an invitation. My dad is paying for the wedding, so I'm assuming the invitations should imply that their from him, but since he's remarried to someone who is not my mother...... ugh so confused...

Is there an obvious way to word the invitations that i'm overlooking????
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Re: We both have divorced parents...

  • mysticlmysticl member
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    The invites reflect who is hosting, not paying.  So if he is going to greet everyone, thank them for coming, make sure the event staff are taking care of everyone's needs he is the host and his name should be on the invite.  If his wife will be joining him in those duties her name should be included.

    You could try "Together with their families bride and groom etc., etc.,"

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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    Are your FI's parents hosting the wedding?  If not, they do not belong on the invitation at all.  The invitation is a simple note from the hosts to the guests, telling them who, what, when and where.  Traditionally the brides parents used to host weddings, but that is not true today.  Are you having a church wedding?  Is your reception in the same place as your ceremony?
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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    edited June 2014
    Assuming that you are not having a church wedding:

    Mr. and Mrs. James Bridestepfather
    Mr. and Mrs. John Bridesfather
    request the pleasure of your company
    at the marriage of
    Bride's Full Name
    to
    Mr. Groom's Full Name
    Day, date
    time o'clock
    Venue
    Address
    City, State

    or

    Mrs. James Bridestepfather
    Mr. John Bridesfather
    request the pleasure of your company
    at the marriage of their daughter
    Bride's Full Name
    to
    Mr. Groom's Full Name
    (etc.)

    Either is correct, but you should talk to the people involved to see how they feel about this.  The groom's parents do not appear on the invitation unless they are hosting your wedding.

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  • maiorielloam6maiorielloam6 member
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    We are not having a church wedding... our ceremony and reception are on the same site..

    I LOVE the bottom one. Thank you so much!
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  • sarahs616sarahs616 member
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    We are doing 'together with their families'- despite tradition, both sets of my parents and his parents are all assisting with the wedding so it's easier that way
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    sarahs616 said:
    We are doing 'together with their families'- despite tradition, both sets of my parents and his parents are all assisting with the wedding so it's easier that way
    The invitation is  not a playbill that lists all financial contributors to the wedding as hosts.  Who's paying or "assisting" with what really isn't any of the guests' business.

    If all four of your parents are acting as "point people" along with you and your FI, then it makes sense to list all of them as hosts.  But don't list anyone who isn't acting as a host to "honor" them.  The only people "honored" by a wedding invitation are the guests who receive it, not the people issuing it-or those listed as "hosts."
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