Hello -
I'm the maid of honor, throwing a family and friends bridal shower. The bride has asked me to include a line in the invitation about "family-friendly g-rated gifts" - basically, she would rather not receive sex toys and lingerie in front of her fiance's 89-year-old grandmother. I agree that for a family/friends shower (and not a bachelorette party) it would mortify me to receive something along those lines. I get where she's coming from. But a) I think it is in bad taste to assume anybody would do this, b) I was raised to believe that when somebody gives you a gift, you say thank you and shut up about it even if it's in poor taste and c) if somebody is going to embarass you, they're going to do it no matter what is on the invitation.
I have asked if there is somebody in particular she is concerned about and offered to call them personally about it, or hand-write something separate on their invitation, but I don't want people to think this is coming from me. Does anybody have any ideas how to handle this? Can I say something like "Sadie asked us to keep gifts and anesdotes G-rated!"? Can I tell the bride I don't want to do this? I would personally be offended to receive an invitation with anything like this in it.
Thanks!