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Is personalization necessary/expected?

NymeruNymeru member
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I actually don't have a single thing that has my or my groom's name on it prepared for the wedding, and my mom is having a hard time with it.  She doesn't want to go hog-wild with the personalization, but she feels like 1) people expect it and 2) my wedding will feel too stark/impersonal without our names written on things in the room.  I've seen some cute personalized signs, but I've never really liked getting personalized favors at weddings.  Sometimes I've gotten favors that I would actually use if the bride's and groom's names hadn't been plastered all over.  What do you think?  Is it important to have our names written on something?
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  • Cookie PusherCookie Pusher member
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    We're not having much of anything personalized stuff at our wedding. Our favor boxes will have a sticker with our names and the date, but they're disposable boxes with edible favors - no one's going to keep them. I think that's actually it. No signs or decorations with our names/monograms/initials. I don't think those things make the wedding itself feel personal.
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  • EverAferEverAfer member
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    Of all the weddings we've been to, I've never noticed if there was any personalization or not.

    I remember things like how happy the couple looked, if the food was good, if I enjoyed the music, if the timing for everything was right.

    I wouldn't worry about it! Everyone there will know your name.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    I agree not to worry about this. I, like EverAfter, have never noticed this at any wedding. At ours. I painted and rhinestoned wooden letters for table numbers, and a few other tables, including our sweetheart table and did our last name for that. So if you're having a sweetheart table you could do something there if you want to appease your mom. You could do it at your seats with a head table too.  
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  • kmmssgkmmssg mod
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    DD had painted wooden letters at her sweetheart table with their last name on it and that was it.  Personally - I never really notice any personalization or not and I would go with you are comfortable with.
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  • twitterbirdtwitterbird member
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    Neither necessary or expected in my area. I don't remember ever seeing anything personalized at weddings I've been too beyond stickers on the favour boxes.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    @kmmssg   You're back!  I've missed you! 
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  • getaclue44getaclue44 member
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    In lieu of a guest book, guests signed Red Sox jerseys with our name on them, but that was it.  Totally not necessary.
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  • JCbride2015JCbride2015 member
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    Yes, there's no need to worry about this.  I have also gotten favors that I would have used if they hadn't been covered with the couple's name.  It's trendy, but it can get OTT.  Just use the decorations you like and don't bother to personalize if you don't want to.
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  • SammiNJonniSammiNJonni member
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    My favors do not have our names on the item themselves but we did get the ribbon with our name on it to tie the box. People can throw away the ribbon. I hate favors with the couples name and date on it. 
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  • offensivekitten2offensivekitten2 member
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    No, it's not expected in the slightest. That being said, if a 12 dollar order of personalized cocktail napkins will give you some peace from your mother, it might be worth it.



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  • vmj23vmj23 member
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    Nothing personalized at our wedding really.  we put thank you labels with our names on the favors, courtesy baskets with a sign with our names on it in the bathroom, and our guest "book" was actually a canvas my mom painted for us that had our name's on it.  that's it.  
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  • RebeccaB88RebeccaB88 member
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    I can't remember the last time I was at a wedding with anything personalized.
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  • JoanE2012JoanE2012 member
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    We didn't have much personalization.  I think the only thing we had with our names on it, other than the menus that the venue made up, was the card box.  Don't worry about it.  Your guests won't notice or care!
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  • theartistformerlyknownastheartistformerlyknownas member
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    The only personalization we'll have is our initials stamped on the tags tied around our favor bags (cake batter jelly beans, yummmmm), but that's more as if we're signing them, "thank you, L&J."

    If I have any money left at the very end (HA! extra money. as if.) I might get custom cocktail napkins, but even those won't have our names on them. They'll say "Please don't take my drink, I'm dancing!"
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  • jnissajnissa member
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    The only personalization we'll have is on the menu cards, and in that case it's really because the venue does them and there's no way around it. Plus, what everybody else said about having no use for favors, etc. that have names on them.
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  • saacjwsaacjw member
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    We had a sticker on our favors and ribbons with our names on them tied to bells (instead of bubbles, we used bells to run out of the church). No one, and I mean no one, but my mother noticed, and only because she went crazy and made them. Don't worry about it. It's not like anyone will forget whose wedding they're at. 
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  • lovesclimbinglovesclimbing member
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    I honestly can't think of one thing at our wedding that had our name on it in terms of decor. Our guest book was monogrammed (although it was open so you couldn't see it) and our cutting set for the cake was as well.
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  • chibiyuichibiyui member
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    The only thing with our names was the cookie bag stamp, and I kinda wish I hadn't done that now cause it really limits the stamp unless I gouge our names and date out.
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  • huskypuppy14huskypuppy14 member
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    getaclue44 said:
    In lieu of a guest book, guests signed Red Sox jerseys with our name on them, but that was it.  Totally not necessary.
    Oh this is a good idea, too bad my wedding was last weekend. :)

    We had our first names on our guest book, and we had initials for our cake topper. But other than that, (and the sign that the venue did with Bride last name Groom last name wedding) there wasn't anything else personalized. 
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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    There was nothing printed at my daughter's reception that had their names on it.  I think those personalized paper napkins are a huge waste of money!
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  • pinkshorts27pinkshorts27 member
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    lilybet13 said:
    Our names were on our individual place cards, but that was it. If our guests couldn't figure out whose wedding they were at without a reminder from the decor, that was going to be their problem, not ours.

    (We were also told that we had to put our names and date on things. Perhaps it was popular around the time when our parents were married.)
    It was. I look through my moms photo albums and see many personalized napkins :)

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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    I actually think we went through the last of my aunt's wedding napkins at our family reunion last year.  I was wiping ketchup off my face and looked down to see "K&T, April 1977".  yeah, awesome.
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  • melbensomelbenso member
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    The only "personalization" we are doing for our wedding is an image that my graphic designer FI created, incorporating our initials, that is printed on our ceremony programs. 

    Since we just printed the programs ourselves on colored paper, he wanted to include a graphic element.  Since he made it, it cost us nothing extra. If he weren't a graphic designer, we would have skipped it.
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    The image he designed is attached.  He proposed on the beach at sunset, so he designed the image to be reminiscent of that.
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  • slothiegalslothiegal member
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    lolo883 said:
    The only personalization we'll have is our initials stamped on the tags tied around our favor bags (cake batter jelly beans, yummmmm), but that's more as if we're signing them, "thank you, L&J."

    If I have any money left at the very end (HA! extra money. as if.) I might get custom cocktail napkins, but even those won't have our names on them. They'll say "Please don't take my drink, I'm dancing!"
    Oh my god, I need those in my life like NOW.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    I don't need or like personalized stuff that much.  I'd say that it will probably be more appreciated if you don't personalize things than if you do.
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  • theartistformerlyknownastheartistformerlyknownas member
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    slothiegal said:
    lolo883 said:
    The only personalization we'll have is our initials stamped on the tags tied around our favor bags (cake batter jelly beans, yummmmm), but that's more as if we're signing them, "thank you, L&J."

    If I have any money left at the very end (HA! extra money. as if.) I might get custom cocktail napkins, but even those won't have our names on them. They'll say "Please don't take my drink, I'm dancing!"
    Oh my god, I need those in my life like NOW.
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  • slothiegalslothiegal member
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    lolo883 said:
    slothiegal said:
    lolo883 said:
    The only personalization we'll have is our initials stamped on the tags tied around our favor bags (cake batter jelly beans, yummmmm), but that's more as if we're signing them, "thank you, L&J."

    If I have any money left at the very end (HA! extra money. as if.) I might get custom cocktail napkins, but even those won't have our names on them. They'll say "Please don't take my drink, I'm dancing!"
    Oh my god, I need those in my life like NOW.
    @slothiegalhttps://jellybelly.com/product/272
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