Last night was his bach party with his groomsmen. FI had a big part in stopping one of them, we'll call him Tad, from killing himself 6 years ago. He and his friends had to chase him down, call the cops, and get him put into a psych ward. Both of Tad's parents were schizophrenic and his dad killed himself, and at that point T was drinking a lot and not in a good place. Since then, Tad has met a wonderful woman with whom he had a little girl, they got married, and now she's about 7 months along with their second and Tad really seems to have it together and to have gotten over whatever was going on before. For all the problems he's had, Tad really truly does seem to have a heart of gold and would give you the shirt off his back.
I told FI to call me if he needed a ride or anything. I got a call at 2:30 last night that Tad had gone off the deep end and FI needed his wife's number. I didn't ask for details and figured he could tell me in the morning, but knowing his history my mind was definitely racing.
FI and his 5 groomsmen were bar hopping last night in their old haunts and it was getting close to closing time. A young guy that was part of a wedding party came up to chat and was joking with them for a bit. He said something to Tad that no one else heard and Tad gave him a look and asked him wtf was his problem. The guy was apologetic and said he didn't mean anything and would leave, and genuinely seemed to be an amicable enough of a guy. Tad was getting irate and trying to pick a fight so another friend, we'll call him Mo, took him outside to calm down. He told Mo that he was acting that way because the guy was "going to hurt us".
Then at some point, Tad ran off and Mo ran after him and Tad tried to beat up Mo. Mo is pretty fit, but Tad is huge and I am really surprised that Mo was able to tackle him himself. In the incident 6 years ago, Tad was tazed by the cops and he just got back up and kept running, so when FI told me something happened I figured it probably took more than one of them to tackle him because he is by far the biggest guy in the group. There was a crowd and people offered to call the cops, but Mo must've calmed him down enough to get him back to the bar and to give Tad's wife a call, who came to get him.
I guess the "going to hurt us" comment wouldn't be so worrisome with anyone else, we would just laugh it off and say they were drinking too much or were a mean drunk, but knowing his history it sounds really paranoid, and basically the whole thing was like a flashback to 6 years ago. It's never been confirmed if he is schizophrenic, but genetically it's extremely likely when one, let alone both parents are.
The situation 6 years ago was never brought up again. FI is nursing a hangover right now, but we are trying to decide whether to call to check in or not. T is probably embarrassed, and our wedding is on Saturday and it might be a bit too fresh in his mind even then and may feel like he's no longer welcome. Even Mo isn't mad, just really shaken up and everyone is just really worried that Tad's life might not be going as smoothly as they appeared to be.