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Flower Girl Daughter???

My Fiancé and I have a 1 1/2 year old little girl. (We did things a little backwards, I know! Please don't judge.) We haven't officially set a date yet and I know I have a little bit of time, but I want to know some of your thoughts. Should we make this wedding just about us, as a couple and our life together, or should we include our daughter in another way? We planned on having her as our flower girl if we have a ceremony with guests, but should we do more? We both want more kids after the wedding and obviously they won't be a part of it. We've also talked about eloping with just us. What are some ideas for a "Family Wedding?" I've seen some neat ideas when a child from a different relationship is included but not much for when the couple's own child is included.

Re: Flower Girl Daughter???

  • Ambular33 said:
    My Fiancé and I have a 1 1/2 year old little girl. (We did things a little backwards, I know! Please don't judge.) We haven't officially set a date yet and I know I have a little bit of time, but I want to know some of your thoughts. Should we make this wedding just about us, as a couple and our life together, or should we include our daughter in another way? We planned on having her as our flower girl if we have a ceremony with guests, but should we do more? We both want more kids after the wedding and obviously they won't be a part of it. We've also talked about eloping with just us. What are some ideas for a "Family Wedding?" I've seen some neat ideas when a child from a different relationship is included but not much for when the couple's own child is included.
    IMO, I do not like it when a couple includes their child in the ceremony, such as making vows to them.  A wedding is about two people making a commitment to each other and entering into a legal contract.  A child, especially a young child, really has no say in those commitments and contract.

    I would just keep your daughter as your flower girl and leave it at that.

  • Ditto Maggie. A wedding is about you and your fiance becoming husband and wife. Leave her as the flower girl.
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • Thanks! I wasn't planning on making vows to her. I'm not really a fan of that either. I just didn't know if anyone had seen another way to include her or if we should just keep it about us.
  • She'll be "included" just by being there and in photos. There really isn't any other way to "include" her than by making her a flower girl-and at 1 1/2, all that can really be is to carry her up and down the aisle and take photos with her. She's too young for anything else and is not going to remember the event later.
  • Alright. Thanks for your input! I appreciate it.
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