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Would you argue this or let it go?

The DJ I booked was a friend of a friend (does do it professionally). At the time of booking, he gave us a $200 discount because we were friends with his really good friend.

Now we are canceling about 75 days before the wedding. My contract states "All deposits are nonrefundable if cancelled within 30 days of the engagement unless the DJ cancels the engagement." So I take that as mine would be refundable because it's 75 days from the event. I just messaged him to let him know we will be canceling and what action I need to take. He responded that the deposit is nonrefundable, unless he is able to book someone else that night.  Since he was nice enough to cut a break on the original price, should I just say ok and let him have the $100 deposit? I mean it's already paid and gone so it's not really skin off my back at this point but it is kind of principle that it's not what the contract states and that's the point of a contract.

                                                                 

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Re: Would you argue this or let it go?

  • I would respond, saying you're confused about the deposit being nonrefundable because the contract states otherwise (quote the contract, indicate paragraph/line where this is stated).
  • I would re-read my contract just to be sure and maybe ask him as politely as possible about it. If he insists, I would probably give up. Not saying it's the RIGHT answer, but it's what I would do.
  • Re-read your contract just to make sure you didn't miss anything.  If you didn't miss anything then I would ask your DJ about this and quote the contract when you talk to him.

  • Ditto PPs. It's not something I'd threaten to sue over or anything, but he may have just been confused. Write him back and say "page x of the contract states that deposits only become non-refundable within 30 days; I expect mine to be fully refundable since we're 75 days out." 

    He chose to give you a discount; that's irrelevant to this. I would only weigh how many fucks you care to expend over $100.

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  • Ditto PPs. I would double check and make sure that is indeed what it says, and then politely contact him saying you are confused. He needs to at least be called out if he is being shady. 


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  • I would argue it. It seems like he's going against what his contract says. I'd email him again for clarity. 
  • Ok thanks!!

                                                                     

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  • Well that was weird....I asked about that line that says 30 days in the contract and he said "well the contract also says cancellations have to be agreed upon by both parties, so I could not agree to it if I wanted". Which freaked me the hell out because I don't want to be stuck paying the full balance. So I just said oh, no problem, am I able to cancel? And he said "yes I always let people cancel, but I just won't give you your deposit unless someone else books that night". So he is basically going against the refund thing in his contract but I'm definitely going to let it go since he has the right to not agree to my cancellation. Kinda shiesty but whatever!

                                                                     

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  • jenna8984 said:
    Well that was weird....I asked about that line that says 30 days in the contract and he said "well the contract also says cancellations have to be agreed upon by both parties, so I could not agree to it if I wanted". Which freaked me the hell out because I don't want to be stuck paying the full balance. So I just said oh, no problem, am I able to cancel? And he said "yes I always let people cancel, but I just won't give you your deposit unless someone else books that night". So he is basically going against the refund thing in his contract but I'm definitely going to let it go since he has the right to not agree to my cancellation. Kinda shiesty but whatever!
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  • What a shyster. 

    Read your contracts before you sign them, folks!

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  • Don't even give him the satisfaction of responding to him and his asshole language.
  • Right?! This was via text since that's how we originally got in contact through our mutual friend. So I asked if he needed an official written letter of cancellation and he said no it was all set. So I screenshotted the entire conversation on my phone for reference.

                                                                     

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  • Totally shiesty! What a jerk. 
  • Yeah, I wouldn't be suggesting him to future brides. He's an ass.

  • I mean, how is that even right to put in the contract?

    If he has to cancel for an emergency or whatever, could you just tell him "no" and force him to be there? Of course not, because his only consequence is to just not show up anyway since he clearly doesn't give refunds.

    That's a horrible contract.

    But, what I really don't understand is that if, by agreeing that the cancelation is good to go, shouldn't he then HAVE to refund you the money. He can't say "well, I'll only agree to cancel if I keep the deposit, but yeah, we're canceled". If you're canceled, you're CANCELED! He agreed, so fork it over!

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  • pinkshorts27pinkshorts27 member
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    edited June 2014
    lkristenj said:

    I mean, how is that even right to put in the contract?

    If he has to cancel for an emergency or whatever, could you just tell him "no" and force him to be there? Of course not, because his only consequence is to just not show up anyway since he clearly doesn't give refunds.

    That's a horrible contract.

    But, what I really don't understand is that if, by agreeing that the cancelation is good to go, shouldn't he then HAVE to refund you the money. He can't say "well, I'll only agree to cancel if I keep the deposit, but yeah, we're canceled". If you're canceled, you're CANCELED! He agreed, so fork it over!

    I feel like that is blackmail or extortion or something. "I'll only let you cancel if you pay me 100 dollars (via not asking for the refund)"

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  • lkristenj said:

    I mean, how is that even right to put in the contract?

    If he has to cancel for an emergency or whatever, could you just tell him "no" and force him to be there? Of course not, because his only consequence is to just not show up anyway since he clearly doesn't give refunds.

    That's a horrible contract.

    But, what I really don't understand is that if, by agreeing that the cancelation is good to go, shouldn't he then HAVE to refund you the money. He can't say "well, I'll only agree to cancel if I keep the deposit, but yeah, we're canceled". If you're canceled, you're CANCELED! He agreed, so fork it over!

    I feel like that is blackmail or extortion or something. "I'll only let you cancel if you pay me 100 dollars (via not asking for the refund)"
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  • lkristenj said:

    I mean, how is that even right to put in the contract?

    If he has to cancel for an emergency or whatever, could you just tell him "no" and force him to be there? Of course not, because his only consequence is to just not show up anyway since he clearly doesn't give refunds.

    That's a horrible contract.

    But, what I really don't understand is that if, by agreeing that the cancelation is good to go, shouldn't he then HAVE to refund you the money. He can't say "well, I'll only agree to cancel if I keep the deposit, but yeah, we're canceled". If you're canceled, you're CANCELED! He agreed, so fork it over!

    I feel like that is blackmail or extortion or something. "I'll only let you cancel if you pay me 100 dollars (via not asking for the refund)"
    For real, also how desperate is this douche for a hundo that he's willing to fuck people over in the process? Good lord.
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