it's been a while, back for a rant
Life happened and I've been dormant, but figured the ladies here would appreciate a train wreck story to start the week.
Friend is getting married in October and her bach is in Sept. Everyone invited to the bach is local and all activities are within 25 minutes.
First email came from MOH in January with a "need to know if you're coming" by March 1st. I repeat, the party is in August. The plan was to go to dinner, a club and stay in a ritzy hotel - "the hotel is optional". Dinner is at this 5 star, extremely expensive restaurant. Ok, fine, I can eat before and order a side salad or something. But wait, MOH says that she is a student and planning her own wedding so everyone else needs to split the bride's expenses because she "just can't".. Then the club. It's one of the most exclusive night clubs in the area and she wants to get a VIP booth for $110/person (if everyone attends - more if they don't). Then she wants to hire a private stripper for pre-club entertainment, so that's going to cost $30/person. And the limo is going to be $60/person. And everyone needs to wear carnation pink or black. If we have questions about what is carnation pink, let her know.
I don't think anyone responded definitively (my RSVP was, 'I'm not sure yet') because another email came "extending the deadline" to March 30th. A few of responses came in akin to "is this my super sweet bach?" "I don't really want to pay for a stripper" "that's a lot of money" Still, I'm guessing response was low because we got "another extension to April 30th".
Then there was a follow up email in May. Plans had changed "because not enough of you b*ches responded or you're all just stingy lol". She scratched the club, but dinner, the limo, hotel and the stripper are still on. And since we're not doing the club with the VIP booth, we all need to buy matching tank tops that say 'bride's posse' "so that everyone knows we're out for her bach." Because how else would everyone know? Thankfully, we have an address where we can send checks made out to the MOH.
It's good that no one can see my face via email because it is:
Re: it's been a while, back for a rant
For my party, we went out to dinner at a nice, but not super expensive restaurant. My mom bought my dinner. After dinner my mom, and one of my friends who is expecting and was too tired to stay out late, went home.
Next we went to a jazz club for a couple of cocktails. I bought my own, because they were expensive and everyone in attendance either traveled into town for the party or is a working single mom (didn't even let anyone offer, just put my money in when the check came).
We capped off the night by swinging by the store and picking up a couple bottles of wine, so that our designated driver could join us in some drinking at our reasonably priced (and totally optional to stay at) hotel, where we shared rooms and beds to cut down on costs. (They covered the hotel, and I think it cost them each about $40).
No one was made to wear matching anything. No "bridesmaid" or "bride's posse" shirts. They got me glasses and a necklace that said "bride to be" which I wore for a few pictures at dinner and then took off.
I think the biggest expenditure for anyone was a cupcake arrangement designed to look like a diamond ring that one of my bridesmaids surprised me with after dinner. And she works for a catering company, so she got it from them at cost.
Everyone had a lovely time. No one spent more than they could afford. And I got to spend quality time with some of my best friends. It was perfect.
All the crap your friend's bridesmaid is planning is unnecessary. And honestly, it seems to me that all that drama takes away from the ability to spend some time with the people you care about. If I were you, I'd decline. Or, if this person is really special to you, go to dinner and then skip the rest of the evening.
I'd be busy that day. Darn.
That is absurd.
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You missed quite a bit. There are two Treehouses, the first is a private FB group thst was created for a two day protest of the boards, and then a Proboards one was made later when the great migration of regs happened to protest Linger and Stage getting banned.
Secret mods were a hilarious flop. One of the ladies invited publically posted her invite, and called it dumb as hell. That sunk the battleship pretty quickly.
I was gone after that, but I think it's been pretty quiet here since then.
We missed you! Man it's good to see so many old regs coming back.
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