XP - Catholic Weddings

loveislouder · June 2014

I've done a lot of research but still don't get it - can someone explain to me what is going to/what needs to happen. FI is Catholic, and I'm not. Anyone?

MobKaz · June 2014

As long as you have been baptized, there are no hoops through which you must jump. Each parish may have slightly different requirements, so it is best to speak with the parish priest.

In general, you must promise not to interfere with raising any children in the Catholic faith. You will need to participate in Pre Cana classes, which might be one weekend day, several weekday evenings, or even a weekend retreat. Again, this all varies from parish to parish. Some parishes may require you to receive permission from the local bishop to marry. I honestly do not know one person that has been required to do so.

My daughter's husband is not Catholic. They married in a full nuptial mass. Daughter received Communion, SIL received a blessing. They participated in Pre Cana together. They lived together prior to marrying and Father was aware of this.

Have you and your FI had a meeting with the parish yet? I urge you to do that. If you have not started any wedding planning yet, most parishes will strongly urge you to get your church date first prior to making any other arrangements.

atlastmrsg · June 2014

I responded to your other post about this. Hope that helps. It's all in the priest you choose. If you want fewer "hoops," seek out a liberal priest.

loveislouder · June 2014

Thanks guys

I havent been baptized, but I got a ton of advice in the other post too. I think we've moved on to which school my hypothetical children will go to lol

msnuggles · June 2014

I have been baptized and he has as well. I am just worried because he is divorced (not married in the Catholic church). What will happen?

MairePoppy · June 2014

msnuggles - There are so many variables. Here's some information: http://www.catholicnewsagency.com/resources/life-and-family/marriage/catholic-marriage-and-annulments/

Don't be afraid to contact your priest, he will know if your fi needs an annulment or if a 'lack of form' is appropriate. And he'll guide you through the process. Make an appointment ASAP. The church won't let you set a date before the previous marriage is declared null or lack of form is determined, so don't sign contracts with vendors or announce a date.

MyNameIsNot · June 2014

msnuggles said:

I have been baptized and he has as well. I am just worried because he is divorced (not married in the Catholic church). What will happen?

He will still have to have an annulment before you can get married in the church. For a marriage outside the church, it is an annulment for "lack of form" which is an abbreviated process. Still, you can expect the process to take anywhere from a few months to a year to be completed by the tribunal. The church usually won't let you book your ceremony date until this has been completed.

You need to book an appointment with his parish priest ASAP to work through the necessities.

Marzipan13 · June 2014

MairePoppy said: msnuggles - There are so many variables. Here's some information: http://www.catholicnewsagency.com/resources/life-and-family/marriage/catholic-marriage-and-annulments/Don't be afraid to contact your priest, he will know if your fi needs an annulment or if a 'lack of form' is appropriate. And he'll guide you through the process. Make an appointment ASAP. The church won't let you set a date before the previous marriage is declared null or lack of form is determined, so don't sign contracts with vendors or announce a date. -----------------------------------etf: haywire boxes-------------------------------------------------------- As PPs have said, you really need to go talk to a priest or deacon, or even call your local Diocese's office for marital concerns and ask these questions. Every case is different, and they would be happy to help you with any questions you have. They're pro-marriage - trust me, they'll guide you through the whole process!

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