In my neck of the woods, men have the tackiest bachelor parties, and it is standard. They invite anyone they know, or even anyone their friends may know (not caring who is invited to the wedding). They sell tickets to cover the cost of beer and food. They even do raffles to set up the groom to help pay for the wedding. If someone wins the raffle, which is a 50/50 split, they are coerced into giving their winnings to the groom. Could you imagine if a woman did this for a bridal shower? We would be tarred and feathered. My fiance is planning on the same thing for his bachelor party. I hope know one will think I am behind this, because I won't be there.
This weekend, my fiance went to a friend's bachelor party. It was the tackiest bachelor party I could ever imagine.The groom picked out the venue, without even consulting his groomsmen, and the groomsmen had to pay for it, without any regard to their budget. The groom was even selling his own raffle tickets and trying to promote people to buy them. At the end of the bachelor party, the groom mentioned to a friend that it was the worst financial turnout for a bachelor party he has ever seen, and that he still has to pretty much pay for his entire wedding, because it did not put a dent in his cost. WOW.
The next day, he gets on facebook thanking everyone for their attendance and said that he did not meet his goal, so if anyone would like to buy raffle tickets (the raffle is over) or donate to his wedding, they can feel free to at any time. Hi.... you don't have cancer, you weren't struck by a dump truck, rendering you a quadriplegic for the rest of your life. You are having a wedding. You chose this. It was not inflicted upon you, so don't ask for charity. I am getting married a month after him.... has my fiance asked him to help cover the cost of our wedding? This friend is getting married this weekend. I really do not want to go. It will be a shit show, for sure. And my rsvps for my own wedding are due by this Wednesday. He is not rsvping to our wedding until he knows how generous we will be with his wedding gift. WOW. Thankfully, this idiot is getting his ass handed to him on facebook about how rude he was to all of his guests. He has since deleted his post and edited it to just say, Thank you for coming to my bachelor party.