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Getting in Shape
jennyleigh16
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Blah, other people's comments vent
So lately I've been trying to make smarter food choices. Nothing major, just cutting out pop and adding a few more fruits instead of snacking on chips.
Today we finally put new batteries in our bathroom scale and I found out I've lost almost 3 pounds. Great! I felt pretty good about that.
A few hours later my FI was on the phone with a friend of his whose wedding we attended in May. His new wife was asking if I was pregnant. The wife has seen me every few months for the last 2 years, and while I've gained weight, it hasn't been a drastic amount since the last time we visited. I can't see her asking because of the engagement because we've been together so long and it didn't surprise anyone, and we didn't drink at the wedding because we were driving home afterwards. The only reason I can figure for her asking is my weight/ body shape and now I'm feeling pretty deflated. I'm a little overweight and definitely out of shape, but I'm still within normal BMI and I don't gorge on fast food every day.
I haven't been comfortable in my skin in years and I have issues staying motivated when I do try to make changes. I know something needs to change, and maybe this is the kick in the ass I need to get going, but damnit I'm angry and upset that a comment was even made about my weight. The woman in question has recently lost about 35lbs and I admire that she worked hard and made it happen, but I don't think that gives her the right to be judgmental.
Today we finally put new batteries in our bathroom scale and I found out I've lost almost 3 pounds. Great! I felt pretty good about that.
A few hours later my FI was on the phone with a friend of his whose wedding we attended in May. His new wife was asking if I was pregnant. The wife has seen me every few months for the last 2 years, and while I've gained weight, it hasn't been a drastic amount since the last time we visited. I can't see her asking because of the engagement because we've been together so long and it didn't surprise anyone, and we didn't drink at the wedding because we were driving home afterwards. The only reason I can figure for her asking is my weight/ body shape and now I'm feeling pretty deflated. I'm a little overweight and definitely out of shape, but I'm still within normal BMI and I don't gorge on fast food every day.
I haven't been comfortable in my skin in years and I have issues staying motivated when I do try to make changes. I know something needs to change, and maybe this is the kick in the ass I need to get going, but damnit I'm angry and upset that a comment was even made about my weight. The woman in question has recently lost about 35lbs and I admire that she worked hard and made it happen, but I don't think that gives her the right to be judgmental.
Has anyone else dealt with insensitive comments like this? Bonus points if you had a snarky reply to the offender.
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Re: Blah, other people's comments vent
People are just horrible and you will look lovely. I promise.
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This happened to me at work once.
cleaning lady: "oh are you pregnant??"
me: uh.... no!
CL: but you have a baby, right?
me: Yeah, 2 years ago....
Awkward. I didn't speak to her for two weeks, and I never wore that top again.
I was also told once that there was a rumor going around that I was pregnant because "No one's boobs look like that unless they're pregnant."
Um excuse me? People are ignorant.
These comments are all super amazing. But kind of make me feel better about the lovely ones I've gotten. A few weeks ago I mentioned to FMIL that I was making my first alterations appointment for my wedding dress. She replied, "Why are you getting your dress altered? Have you lost weight?" Huh? But I took it as an opportunity to say, "Actually, I have lost weight! About 15 pounds." To which she said, "Really? I can't tell." Awesome, thanks, and also THEN WHY DID YOU ASK?
Later on I showed her a photo of my dress. Response, "Oh, I see now why you're trying to lose weight." SWELL, THANK YOU!
FMIL came with my mom and I for my first fitting and when I came out she said "oh, that's..that's what you're wearing."
I always got the sense from him that he, as a man, didn't need to remain thin while a woman, like me, absolutely had to be. The end result is that I've never been thin or healthy in my life. But I'm in the process of changing that, go me!
I advocate shopping. I find when I go out and get something that makes me, today, look fabulous I don't hear the comments anymore because I know I look damn fine.
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I'm starting to get my ass in gear. I've been going to the gym twice a week for the last month. I know twice a week isn't much but I'm working on it and its better than nothing. I haven't noticed any changes in my body but I've noticed my endurance is getting better, so there's that. I'm still struggling a lot with eating better. I do a lot of fast food type lunches because I'll bring something from home and come lunchtime I just don't find it appealing anymore. Any suggestions for creative healthy lunches? And snacks?
YES I AM LOSING WEIGHT EATING NUTELLA. HOW AWESOME IS THAT.
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THIS! I was waiting for my now ex-husband to pay for a dvd at Blockbuster and the cashier congratulated my husband (on my being pregnant). I said, "What?! I'm not pregnant!" and ran out of the store. Leaving my husband staring at this guy and still having to complete a totally awkward transaction.
I WAS WEARING AN EMPIRE WAIST DRESS. Never again.