So I mailed out my invites about two weeks ago...I sent them a few weeks early because it's an out of state wedding and 99% of our guests will have to travel. The RSVP deadline is August 1. That means people still have about 5 weeks to decide if they can/want to attend. At my shower last weekend, a 'friend' came up to me and asked if I received her RSVP. I hadn't yet. She said, "I checked decline, but can we change that to a tentative decline? I mean, I just don't know if I'll be able to use my miles to get a free flight or not." Totally fine that she might not be able to make it - I'm not taking it personally if people can't attend as it's expensive to travel and people have all kinds of things going on in their lives. My problem is that she's not the only person to RSVP and then tell me they still might be able to make it. I don't understand this...why RSVP way in advance of the deadline if you're not sure? We had people do this for one of my showers too. One of my Mom's friends seriously changed her mind 10 times about whether or not she could make it (she didn't)...emailing an update every few days to my Mom to let her know what she was thinking that day about going. I just don't understand people, I really don't.