So, you ladies have been ever so helpful in guiding me as we navigate the SIL/MIL relationship on FI's side. (Coles Notes: FI does not have a great relationship with his sister, his FSIL and FMIL have a very co-dependant relationship, she is an adult child living at home.) I find myself in need of your advice again.
Our wedding is October 4, 2014.
We had asked FSIL to be in the wedding, as family is important and wanted her to feel included, have had some issues along the way and in the end, I told her - in January - grey, knee length dress...go! Whatever you want, grey knee length. She's a plus size girl and I wanted her to feel comfortable so let both her and my MOH pick their own. I had asked her a few weeks back how the dress was coming (as she said she was likely going to have it made) and she kind of fluffed it off and gave me a non-answer and logged out of FB chat. Okay...so we were at the IL yesterday afternoon and since I can't get a straight answer out of FSIL, I asked FMIL for an update on how it was coming. She rolled her eyes (relating to FSIL) and said, she had brought home patterns for FSIL to look at but she wouldn't really bother with them and wanted to wait until school was over (end of this week) before doing anything
We are now just over 3 months away from the wedding and I'm a little nervous. I have no expectations of her beyond showing up in a grey knee length dress, sober on the day of the wedding...but not sure how FI and I should approach this at this point.
I have found some really pretty dresses online (one through Layne Bryant that I LOVE) and am half tempted to buy it for her and say 'here'...you're dressed... or do I leave it alone and see what happens?
Help Me.