I'm working on figuring out my child attendant situation. I have a very small family, just two first cousins. They're married and each have two little girls (no boys). All four of them are blond and look like sisters. For my wedding, two of them will be 4 yrs and one will be 6. The other will be 1.5, so I'm not planning on including her. I'd like to find a way to include the other 3 girls, partly so nobody feels jealous or left out, but my fiance says he only wants one flower girl. My aunt (their grandmother) had suggested I have the eldest one hand out programs or something of the like, but my fiance doesn't like that idea either. I thought having three flower girls would be just fine, I thought having the 6 yr old would help keep the 4yr olds on task.
My only sister (my matron of honor) is about to have her first child, a boy. My wedding is next August so he'll be a little over a year. I really want to include him as the ring bearer, so I was thinking of having my brother-in-law carry him down the aisle (making him the ring bearer bearer). I also thought about having the flower girl(s) pull him in a wagon, but I like the idea of including my brother-in-law.
My fiance's family is very large and he's not really close with any of his cousins so doesn't feel the need to include them. (Especially since he can't even name all of them)