My fiance and I decided to host our own engagement party - we are framing it as sort of "we are so excited to get married so come celebrate with us!" We originally wanted to get married outside in the afternoon in May 2015...however we decided on a winter wedding instead! We wanted to bring the feel of our original wedding idea to our engagement party, so we rented a park ramada with a BEAUTIFUL mountain backdrop, are having food catered, supplying drinks, and are planning to have lots of yard games and just enjoy the wonderful summer weather!That being said, we decided not to spend money on formal invitation since our engagement party isn't going to be too formal and instead spread the word through email and a facebook event. However, the word has been spread for about a week and half and the party is next weekend (10 days away). So far only our immediate family and a few local friends have responded (about 10 people total - we invited about 50). About 50% of our friends live in-town, and about 50% live in the neighboring town less than 2 hours away. I have a feeling that the party is going to be a flop. My MOH (who doesn't know it yet) will be coming, but no one else from our potential bridal parties. All of our friends have kind of brushed this off as no-big-deal and I am afraid that no one will end up coming. This makes me very sad as I have been SO excited about our party and have worked really hard to plan it thus far. Any opinions on this? Are engagement parties just not a big deal these days? Should we have sent out real initiations? We gave about 3 weeks notice...too much or too little? Do we have the right to be upset if our (potential) bridal party & best friends don't even make an effort to show up? Is expecting some people to drive 2 hours to our party too much?
I guess I'm having an "engagement party". It isn't really anything like an engagement party really. I've been engaged since Christmas Eve. The party is only 2 months before the wedding, and is basically a party hosted by my FMIL at her house for all the various family groups (multiple divorces and re-marriages do that to a family) so they can meet each other. Some other close family friends may also attend. I don't think of it as an "engagement party" even though that's what FMIL insists on calling it. It's more of a "lets get both sides of all the family together and mingle" party. Very informal. FMIL hosts big parties at her house all the time and loves it, so part of me just thinks she wanted an excuse to see everyone and have a party.
In any case, I came because of the DD and agree with all who said it's rude to host your own engagement party.
"They say there's no such place... as Paradise. Even if you search to the ends of the Earth, there's nothing there. No matter how far you walk, it's always the same road. It just goes on and on. But, in spite of that... Why am I so driven to find it? A voice calls to me... It says, 'Search for Paradise.' " - Kiba, Wolf's Rain
Also, you planned this for 4th of July weekend! Many families have standing plans, especially with the 4th being a Friday and people able to have long weekends. But yet you only invited people with 3 weeks notice. And it's 2 hours away, but does that include holiday traffic?