Wedding Woes

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edited July 2014 in Wedding Woes
2014 is half-over. Time is flying. I have neighborhood drama to share. ;) 

 So, crazy lady next door and I had words yesterday. First of all, I think her grandson is running drugs out of her house. So do a few other neighbors. People are constantly showing up for 2 min at a time and leaving. All hours of the day and night. My other next door neighbor said about 5 people showed up between midnight and 3 am on Saturday night. The kiddo also said he saw the grandson walking the dog and smoking a joint. I don't really care if you want to smoke pot, but the traffic with all these people coming and going makes me nervous. Especially with a "For Sale" sign in my yard and now that interior shots of my house are online. My other neighbor is a paralegal and is always running to the courthouse, so she was going to chat with one of the deputies she knows and inform them about the situation and see what they say. 

So anyway, she was mowing he grass right before I got off work yesterday and I saw her throw a paper in my yard. I walked out when I got off work, right in front of her, and said, "Why did you throw this in my yard?!" She said something in gibberish (didn't sound like English or Spanish) and waved me off. I picked up the paper and it turns out it's a time-punch receipt with someone's name on it. I'm sure it's from one of the people who are coming and going. I told her that it's not mine and it was probably from "one of the people buying drugs at your house!" I held on to the paper. We'll see what happens. If my neighbor doesn't have the balls to say something to a deputy, I'll either walk down to the sheriff's house at the end of the street and chat at him or call the non-emergency line. They've been doing major patrols on our street since my side is a no-parking zone. They've decided after 10 years that they're going to start ticketing.  You'd think if it was the same cop, he may have noticed this since they're driving by so much, but who knows? 

 My other next door neighbor I'm friendly with, but she's a hot mess. She just got divorced this spring. Her ex moved out. She's already bringing new dudes around her kids. She wonders why her 3 year old won't listen to her (even though I watch her let him get away with murder all.the.time and that kid has *never* had any sort of routine and structure) and her 12 year old does whatever the hell he wants without a care regarding consequences. He's also said shit to his mom in front of me that I would lose my mind if the kiddo talked to me like that. She thinks the 3 year old needs to be tested for ADHD. I try really hard to reserve judgement about this stuff because I know that divorce is hard as hell and all that stuff, but I really want to shake her and ask her WTF she is doing. I really worry about her 12 year old because he's always been such a good, kind-hearted, sensitive kid and he's turning into an asshole. I understand why. His real dad is an alcoholic schizophrenic and his stepdad was pretty terrible to him (not abusive, but definitely never fostered a positive relationship with him). I hope she gets her shit together, but I don't see it happening. That's unfortunate.

Re: Morning

  • Ugh, what a mess, esp. with Neighbor #2 and her kids.  SMH at having the 3 y.o. evaluated for ADHD.  They all have ADHD, it's called being 3.

    xSIL was the same way with her three kids, in terms of letting them do whatever the hell they wanted to.  When we were there for MIL's memorial service a couple of years ago, I said something completely ordinary ("Wooz, put your markers away, it's time to go") and she said "I wonder what it's like to have a kid who actually listens to you!"  I had to bite my tongue so hard not to say "It's pretty normal, actually, and also awesome."  As my BF says, they weren't born following directions...
  • Poor kids of Neighbor #2.  Kids want structure and direction, they might be defiant against it but they still need it to feel safe and secure.  Children who don't learn (or aren't taught) respect for their parents won't show respect to anyone and life will be so much more difficult for them.
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  • I just got word that the neighbors have been 'anonymously' reported.  :D

    Also, my neighbor goggles at the fact that DefConn is 'so good'.  Because I put limits on him and I'm not afraid to straight up remove him if he's acting a fool.  He also isn't 'in charge' in our house.  And he has a bedtime that we stick to.  And a routine.   She never tries anything long enough to see if it works.  

    Yesterday, it was getting ready to storm.  There was no lightning, but the thunder and rain was getting more intense as time passed.  So I called the kiddo (the rule is usually for him to come in if there's lightning) and tell him to come home and I also advse that maybe the neighbor kid should go home too.  He tells the kiddo, "Mrs.Conn is not my mom, so you may have to go in, but I don't."  I'm like, "Okay." So I see my neighbor on FB messanger and inform her to the situation.  She says, "I had no idea he was outside.  I can't get a hold of him.  He's not answering his phone (a TracFone)....He won't be going outside at all anymore because he never contacts me when he's supposed to."  Guess who was just at my door 15 min ago?  ...Right.  

    People may think I'm tough or mean or the worst ever and my kids may think they hate me, but they sure as shit listen and do what they're told. 
  • I worry about the neighbor kid when we move. I don't know who's going to look out for him and I don't know who she's going to hit up to check on him when I'm gone.


  • People may think I'm tough or mean or the worst ever and my kids may think they hate me, but they sure as shit listen and do what they're told. 
    This.
  • Morning. I need some adviSe.
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