Yup that's right I said it. I hate cake and so does my fiance. So we aren't having any cake at our wedding. Want to see people's heads spin when they ask about your wedding? Tell them there will be no cake, no cupcakes, not even cheesecake(out door wedding bad idea in the heat). It's like you've just told them the Tooth fairy isn't real. I get it, the cake is like the second biggest part following actual I do's and first kiss, but it's just cake. I've never liked cake, he's never liked cake. My mom even brought up this past weekend about going shopping for a cake knife/serving set, I stared at her like she had 3 heads for like 3 minutes. Finally she's like "Oh that's right you aren't having cake... what if we call it a pie cutting knife set? There will be pie right?" Yes mom there will be pie, lots of pie, pie of all variety! and That yummy graham cracker thing you make, please and thank you. Sorry I just had to rant about this, since in the past 2 weeks, I have apparently crushed the souls, hopes and dreams of several future guests that there will be no cake, but better they find out now right? lol
Re: I hate cake...
@ scribe95, We aren't throwing a sheet cake in there to please cake eaters because we are not wasting money on something we do not want at our wedding. Would you pay for a dinner option you didn't want or a type of flower that you hated to be at your wedding? No you wouldn't. If we provide a cake, then we have to throw out what is left of the uneaten cake afterwards... total waste of our hard earned money. They can have pie and cookies, fruit salad, or nothing, not everyone eats desert anyway.
@cupcait927 I plan to enjoy my pie and my wedding
I hope that you enjoy every part of your wedding as well.
I'll gladly eat whatever dessert is served at an event because I have a huge sweet tooth.
As for cake, I think it is just OK. There is a long list of desserts that could be served at a wedding that I would choose over cake. Especially since cake is done ALL the time: office parties, birthdays, showers, graduations, etc. Your dessert plan sounds delicious and refreshingly different.
Doing what is popular is also a good point. That is why we did chicken and beef. And had a lite beer. I'm not a picky eater but I know lots of people that are. Our thinking was give the people their chicken and let them be happy. That being said, even though cake is popular I wouldn't do it either if I were you. The desserts you will serve are main stream and popular enough (and a great, plentiful variety) that I think they substitute just fine for cake. Now if you would have posted that you were doing fruitcake for dessert and nothing else...that would be a different story
I will say, it is entirely your right, and okay to not serve cake your wedding. But given that you've said people were upset there wouldn't be cake, the suggestion of serving an inexpensive sheet cake is a very valid one. Surely if there were left overs someone else could take it (we offered left over cake and cookies to the service staff)
But yeah, I personally think something like a cream puff, éclair or doughnut would be a nice addition, if you could afford it. Fruit salad is a dessert, but I feel like it's more of a side then a dessert.
And what if no one else wants to eat pie or whatever you do serve? You'll still end up with a lot of expensive leftovers.
Demanding that a thread be closed because you only want to have your own views expressed and considered (very defensively at that) makes you sound like a pouting 3 year old. It doesn't inspire sympathy for your views.