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Bridesmaids gifts if I paid for dresses?

kat1114kat1114 member
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I paid for my bridesmaids' dresses, and I know that doesn't count as gift. But, is it okay for me to spend a little less on their gifts than I would have had I not done that? For example, I was thinking about a bottle of their favorite wine/alcohol or gift cards to a favorite place (for OOS girls who might not want to pack liquid in their suitcase) and a heartfelt card. Is that enough for their gifts?
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Re: Bridesmaids gifts if I paid for dresses?

  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    That is fine.  It isn't like you said to them "oh I am going to spend $X on your gift." And then turned around and said "wait, I bought your dresses so now I am only going to spend $Y on your gift."  Spend what you want and can afford.

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  • southernbelle0915southernbelle0915 mod
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    Yes, I think that's enough for gifts. It was really nice of you to buy their dresses, too!
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  • chibiyuichibiyui member
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    Your good to go.
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  • kat1114kat1114 member
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    Thanks everyone!
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  • NymeruNymeru member
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    I'm glad you're going for gifts they'll truly enjoy instead of tacky wedding schmalz.  It's very nice of you to have paid for the dresses.  Kudos to you!
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  • NymeruNymeru member
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    I would never want any of those things either. I usually have a bundle of "goodies" for the thrift store every year once wedding season is done.
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  • thelastdreamerthelastdreamer member
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    yeah that's fine. i know it's not "correct" but honestly as a bm i'd rather have my dress paid for and not get any gift because usually your dress costs way more than whatever gift you get. 
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  • atlastmrsgatlastmrsg member
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    I took my MOH (my one and only attendant) to Neiman Marcus and bought her a great black cocktail dress.  She still talks about how happy she was to not have to wear a typical bridesmaid dress, she said it was best gift ever.  She actually wants to wear it again.  After that, I took her to lunch and gave her a present from J. Crew after hearing her talk about how much she liked the particular item.  I also skipped the bridesmaid embroidered/bedazzled/etc. crap.  She has thanked me so many times.  I truly believe it was a better wedding experience for her because of this.  I think you're definitely on the right track.  After you buy the dress, see what you can spend.  If you can buy a present, great.  If you can't, a heartfelt note would suffice.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Anything you require your bridesmaids to wear at the wedding, even if you paid for it, is not a "gift."

    A "bridesmaid's gift" to your bridesmaids needs to be something that comes without any strings or requirements attached.  But it doesn't have to be expensive or glitzy.  I think what you have in mind is fine.
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