FI and I have always talked about having a co-ed bach party. My MOH and the BM both know about this and are willing to work together to plan everything. Well my cousins, who are BM's have apparently been talking among themselves about my bach party. They told me they had all the ideas planned and everything. I told them we wanted a co-ed party and that the MOH and BM knew what we wanted. They said no to the co-ed bach party and that the bach party wasn't for me it was for them to enjoy themselves. I didn't make much of it but things have changed since this conversation.
My MOH found out 2 weeks ago she was pregnant. She and her FI are now having a JOP wedding next week where I will be the witness/MOH. By the time of my wedding my godchild will be about 5 months old. I don't know if she will be able to be involved in the planning now or anything else she and I had talked about. I have another bff who was going to be second MOH but for some issues with FI she wasn't. She too is on board with the co-ed bach party.
Should I talk to both of them and tell them about what my cousins are planning and that it is not what I want? I feel like it would be rude of me to say to my cousins that they will not be planning my bach party if it is not the co-ed one..