Another guest wore white!

MollyandD · July 2014

I attended a wedding as a guest this past Thursday, and another girl wore a white cocktail dress! Here's the crazy part: no one thought she was the bride!

I know, I know. I too was shocked. No one tried to give this girl any wedding advice or presents. No one thought she should stand up at the alter. No one even seemed to care that this girl would dare to wear a beautiful dress that was very flattering on her and in no way looked like a wedding dress.

The part that shocked me most was that the bride didn't seem to even notice! The bride was so happy in her own moment, that she did not pay attention to what any wayward guest was wearing. Now, obviously, this guest wore a white dress with the clear intention of hurting the feelings of the bride. Why else would someone have the audacity to wear a beautiful dress to any event ever, if not to steal all the attention? And the poor bride was so caught up in the moment and enjoying her love that she didn't even realize what was going on.

I felt so sorry for the bride as she stood there smiling brighter than I have ever seen her smile. This girl totally ruined her special day.

goldchocobo.defunct635829490514903826 · July 2014

I came here to be all like "Hey! What does it matter??" and laughed at your post.

ashley8918 · July 2014

oh, the horror!

mrsmorales2be · July 2014

Probably the funniest thing I've read so far today!

beethery · July 2014

We need to have a prayer circle for this guest and the bride!

Fran1985 · July 2014

I mean, I'm in the camp that a guest wearing white doesnt take a way at all from the bride, but I can tell you a different story- my sweetheart friend got married and was hurt that someone wore white- not because she needed it for herself but because she did take it as a slight, just because so many people do know the "only the bride wears white." Its great that your friend didn't care and that no one else at the wedding did, but I don't blame brides who are upset that someone wears white, as long as they aren't like throwing a fit about it. But I understand why someone would feel that a guest wearing white was meant to be a passive aggressive move.

lc07 · July 2014

Molly&Domenic said:

I attended a wedding as a guest this past Thursday, and another girl wore a white cocktail dress! Here's the crazy part: no one thought she was the bride!

I know, I know. I too was shocked. No one tried to give this girl any wedding advice or presents. No one thought she should stand up at the alter. No one even seemed to care that this girl would dare to wear a beautiful dress that was very flattering on her and in no way looked like a wedding dress.

The part that shocked me most was that the bride didn't seem to even notice! The bride was so happy in her own moment, that she did not pay attention to what any wayward guest was wearing. Now, obviously, this guest wore a white dress with the clear intention of hurting the feelings of the bride. Why else would someone have the audacity to wear a beautiful dress to any event ever, if not to steal all the attention? And the poor bride was so caught up in the moment and enjoying her love that she didn't even realize what was going on.

I felt so sorry for the bride as she stood there smiling brighter than I have ever seen her smile. This girl totally ruined her special day.

I didn't care or even know, frankly, what most guests wore to my wedding until I saw pictures. And I would not have cared if someone wore a white dress to mine. But I do side-eye girls in white dresses at weddings. I would not say it to you or to the couple. So it would seem that I did not care. But I still think it's tacky.

QueerFemme · July 2014

Just because the bride didn't seem upset on her wedding day doesn't mean she didn't notice.

Peaseblossom55 · July 2014

Honestly I don't even know if I would have noticed if a guest wore white,......

huskypuppy14 · July 2014

There were a couple people that wore white to my wedding. Someone wore a white cocktail dress and a couple people wore white tops. I gave zero fucks. No one was wearing a sparkly white gown except for me. No one thought these other people were the bride.

QueerFemme · July 2014

One person wore a long strapless white dress to my wedding. I noticed. So did some our mutual friends who promptly shamed her into putting on her coat.

themuffinman16 · July 2014

I do not care if other guests wear white at my wedding. I, however, would not wear it to anyone else's wedding. I, even, went shopping with my niece, today, and I showed her several dresses in white that I loved for her. She asked me if I would mind, because you aren't supposed to wear white. I said, I absolutely do not care, but you have to know your audience. If they would take it as a sign of disrespect, save it for another occasion. But I, for one, give nonefucks about guests wearing white, red, or a mariachi suit.

mysticl · July 2014

A friend of mine was in a wedding this weekend and the best I can tell the bridesmaids wore white. Either that or the color was so light it is photographing white.

JCbride2015 · July 2014

The wedding I attended this weekend had two guests in white. I side-eyed slightly but nothing terrible happened. Neither dress looked "bridal" at all.

But @QueerFemme, I would side-eye the shit out of a long, strapless white gown and I'd be one of the friends shaming her into putting on a coat. I think there is a line for wearing white at a wedding and that crosses it.

BreMR · July 2014

I agree with all of you who are saying that the bride probably doesn't notice but the guest sure do! I think wearing white is really risky, and mostly pointless. Why wear white to a wedding when there are so many other colors to wear?/ Why risk the embarrassment and the side-eyes??

KimCagle · July 2014

I have a friend whose future mother in law wore an actual white wedding dress to her sons wedding. I saw the photo proof. seriously crazy.

RebeccaB88 · July 2014

I'd side eye the ever loving hell out of this. But it would in no way ruin the day for me. And I'd be hella embarrassed for HER. But, I come from an area where, if you don't know not to do that by the time you're 12, it's a 'bless her heart' moment.

banana468 · July 2014

I went to a wedding a few years ago where someone wore a long creamy cocktail dress. I judged that guest just as I judged the woman who thought it was fine to wear baggy capris, Birkenstock-like sandals and a polo shirt. I was 5.5 mos pregnant at that wedding and managed to find an appropriate cocktail dress and heels.

Cookie Pusher · July 2014

I don't think anyone wore white to my wedding. Even if they had no one would have confused them for the bride - even when I changed into a bright red dress. Of course, I still would never wear white to a wedding when there are so many other colors to choose from and look better on me.

theartistformerlyknownas · July 2014

@Cookie Pusher‌ I can't wait for an update!

I think "no white to a wedding" is such a widely-believed thing that even if it didn't bother me, I would wonder if it was worn in a passive aggressive way in an attempt to bother me. Of course people won't think they're the bride, but I would wonder if they were a bitch.

beethery · July 2014

I went to a wedding about 8 years ago, and one of the guests wore a white strapless cocktail minidress. She had stank-face the whole time, and it was just... odd. I don't know if anyone else stank-faced back at her, but even at 20 I couldn't figure out why the hell she would wear that and act that way besides some weird passive aggressive nonsense that wasn't necessary at the event.

Same girl was bullshit when she didn't catch the bouquet. She didn't start a fight or anything, I just heard a loud, "WHAT THE FUCK???!?!?!" when I caught it. Looked over, and there was extra stank on her face.

Whatever girl. We can all see what you're about. Mosey on.

climbingsingle · July 2014

I can't help it - as a guest, I side-eye the shit out of a guest wearing an all white dress. I was raised that it was in terribly bad taste to do that. I'd never wear an all-white dress to a wedding. At my wedding, I probably will not notice what anyone is wearing. I'm a bridechilla.

Bubblegum5586 · July 2014

QueerFemme said:

Just because the bride didn't seem upset on her wedding day doesn't mean she didn't notice.

I noticed a guest wearing an all white dress. I noticed for split second and then moved on.

So as a bride it didn't upset me as I knew this girl was young and likely didn't know, plus I knew everyone knew I was the bride.

I would never wear white just out of respect of the bride. Whether it is a laid back bride that wont care or one that I know is uber sensitive, I wouldn't want to even take a chance of upsetting the bride over something so easily avoidable.

Always2014 · July 2014

I honestly did not notice during my wedding day, then later in the pics saw that DH's longtime friend's girlfriend wore white. Didn't mind at all until DH's brother reported that she bragged about "picking out the prettiest long white dress she could find." No one mistook her for me, it's totally hearsay and I'm definitely not pissed at her - but I did roll my eyes so hard that they fell out of my head. Eta: grammar

Maggie0829 · July 2014

I pretty much noticed what everyone was wearing at my wedding. I mean I did speak to each person and give them a hug and took pictures with them. Plenty of time to recognize what they were wearing. I noticed my SILs too short green leopard print dress that showed the bottom of her bum if she bent the wrong way. I also noticed the one guy wearing jeans. None of their outfits upset me but I did notice them.

Of course wearing white to someone's wedding won't end the world or cause a huge ruckus, but just because people act like they don't notice doesn't mean that they actually don't notice. Most people have enough class to keep their thoughts to themselves but judge quietly in their head or to their spouse/date.

SBmini · July 2014

Someone wore white at my wedding. I totally forgot about it until we got the photos back and saw her. Funny thing is... neither my husband or I have any idea who her and boyfriend even were. I don't know if that makes it more strange or less strange that she went to a strangers' wedding wearing white.

My aunt was mortified when she wore the same color as my bridesmaids. Didn't bother me one bit!

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