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Alice and the Registry...

Lowell14Lowell14 member
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Alice just e-mailed to say they her FI is upset that guests are buying items off their registry (and quite a large one at that). They put monetary gifts only on the invite.

I replied to Alice that older guests would prefer a physical gift to give, some guests may not like being told what to give and having a larger registry may be confusing to guests. What's done is done. I hope they graciously accept ANY gifts given.

They were hoping to re-coup some of the wedding costs through wedding gifts. If they don't, that's on them, not their guests :(


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  • Lowell14Lowell14 member
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    They registered for the bridal shower but for some reason made it as big as one for the wedding. I told her that it could be confusing to guests and accept any gifts graciously.


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  • Blue_BirdBlue_Bird member
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    Lowell14 said:
    They regiIstered for the bridal shower but for some reason made it as big as one for the wedding. I told her that it could be confusing to guests and accept any gifts graciously.
    If you're looking for gifts, may I suggest these? http://alteregolinens.files.wordpress.com/2011/08/tw-knock_teal-e1313122371587.jpg
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  • Lowell14Lowell14 member
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    lolo883 said:

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    Hahaha! Love it!


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  • short+sassyshort+sassy member
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    "Monetary gifts only"? Ugh! Who does that? And on their invites, no less. So tacky, tacky, tacky. And not even a "cute poem" to make it okay, lol (sarcasm).
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  • princessleia22princessleia22 member
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    Um, why not just delete the registries after the shower? Or reduce the number of items on them? I didn't want to do a large registry because most of my guests are long distance from me and we had destination wedding. So, I didn't want a lot of large tangible gifts to lug all over the world. So, we did a rather small registry. We did tell guests (although not on the invite) that it is recommended by the venue that they not bring physical gifts to the actual wedding due to issues with space availability, travel and that we would be required to pay duty taxes on all items received there. Plus, we told people (if/when they asked) that gifts are not expected and their attendance to the wedding or best wishes from home are more than enough (and we actually meant it). We have had some people ship a few physical gifts to our home, but most guests have wonderfully given money or gift cards. It's amazing how much a small registry can say without having to actually outright ask for cash.

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