Honey fund

j3nnmack3y · July 2014

Has or is anyone using honey fund for their bridal registry?

hmgiffor · July 2014

I am using Honeyfund. It seems to have the lowest fees and was really easy to use. I only have this and one other registry (Amazon) since we have already been living together for 5 years.

myriah505 · July 2014

No, I think those things are ridiculously tacky. Asking for others to pay for your vacation. Beyond rude. My fiance and I are not registering anywhere, for anything, 1) because we have been living together for 3 years and have everything we need. We are settled, independent adults. 2) because it is going to cost each of our guests $400-$500 to join us for our wedding weekend so there's no way in hell I can ask anything more of them.

hmgiffor · July 2014

Wow @myriah505..tell us what you really think

a13049 · July 2014

The vegas board tends to be more accepting of etiquette faux pas, but in general honey funds are considered rude. Only you know your guests but some of them may feel out off by your requests. If people want to give you money, they know how to do so. We are choosing not to register for similar reasons, we have been together for 7 years with a daughter. We have still received a few small gifts and a handful of cards with a fair amount do money included. I don't say this to be rude, but to inform you.

vegasgroom · July 2014

I'm not a fan of those services either. I think the word has generally gotten out how they really work and more and more these days guests know that 'honeyfund' really means "I think I'm buying this but they're really getting cash minus a fee." If you want money, just make it known to please not bring boxed gifts, but do so via word of mouth, not on the invite which is about as tacky as including a registry card. Then you get cash and the guests know they're giving cash, without some third party taking a cut. If you do have to go that route, no big deal, some guests may silently judge, but it is what it is; not some life changing issue.

garciavegas2014 · July 2014

we have a honeyfund and love it and have gotten nothing but great feedback, i have gone round and round over this subject on this board and this is the only place i have had to do this at. That being said we also live together, have for a while we have everything we need, we chose to do a honeyfund and love it

j3nnmack3y · July 2014

Didn't mean to cause a stir. Just looking into alternatives. My moh is throwing me a rather sudden bridal shower and I feel weird making a registry for things I don't really need as my fiancé and I have also been together for some time. Wondered your guys' views on e-registries like honeyfund or even amazon.

hmgiffor · July 2014

I personally have both (Honeyfund and Amazon) and have received positive feedback that people like being able to purchase stuff we actually want/need than trying to guess. Even though they might not be paying for that particular "thing" they are buying on Honeyfund...it still makes them feel like they bought us something neat that will contribute to us having a great time.

One I HATE shopping so I did not want to go into a store and scan stuff for hours that I really didn't want which is why I used Amazon

My brother used Honeymoon Pixie and I loved being able to buy him something off of it!

ktbabe530 · July 2014

I'm not a fan of the Honeyfund because they end up taking a cut of what your guests want to give you.

We didn't need much either so we registered for a few things we could use upgrades on, towels, sheets, some nicer pots and pans. People will get the hint and give you money. Almost everyone that came brought us a card with cash or check. It's Vegas after all, people have cash on them all the time.

We also told our parents and close friends that we were saving up for 'X'. That way when people ask where we were registered, my mom would say something like, 'they are registered at Bed, Bath and Beyond, but they are also saving up to redo their bathroom'. We even got cards with checks from people that weren't invited, but wanted to congratulate us.

Bottom line, I personally feel that there are more tactful ways of asking for money and the fact that these places take a cut bothers me. If I had a friend registered for a Honeyfund, I would probably just bring a card with cash.

Ndelible · July 2014

We registered with Honeyfund and it was the first gift we received. I had no idea what it was until my MOH told me. I liked it because it was something I would give to. I love the idea of giving travel. I get that people don't like fees. Doesn't bother me, With Honeyfund the fees only apply if the giver gives through PayPal. I would totally give to friends if they registered and that's how we made the decision. To each his own. I actually don't expect many gifts at all, but I wanted to give choices to anyone who desired to get us something. There are limited choices on Target and Macy's. Most excited for the wedding. That's the important part.

a13049 · July 2014

Just like any etiquette issue, you can choose to take it or leave it. Like vegasgroom said, it won't be the end of the world and most likely all that will happen is people may judge or "side eye" you. If someone is put off by it, they most likely won't saying anything, because that would be rude.

AustralianSam · July 2014

Not taking a dig at anyone - but just offering a bit of a different point of view.... In Australia, NO ONE has a bridal registry of any kind... I wouldn't even know where to get one set up. EVERY wedding you go to will have a "wishing well" that you put money into. Usually you put your money in en envelope, separate to the card so they don't know who gave what. Its standard practice here as everyone lives together before they are married and don't need more homewares.

Just offering an insight to how we do it here.

I was reading some of the other boards about wedding gifts and etiquette and find it quiet amusing how rude people think it is to ask for money. And how "passionate" some of the girls are about saying how rude it is.

We don't expect our guests to give us anything at our wedding... they are paying about $1200+ each just to fly to the US.

AustralianSam · July 2014

oh, and ready for it... in the wedding invitation, there is usually a card with a cute poem ASKING you give cash! Shock horror.

Suits me... I hate buying presents for people that will only get returned or sit on the shelf and collect dust. Everyone can use cash!

hmgiffor · July 2014

Thanks for the insight! It's always interesting to hear about traditions in other countries.

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