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Sad (and happy) Cat News, Long Post

I think I posted earlier that my cat Buddy was sick.

Things got really bad, really fast and we made the decision to put Buddy down on Thursday.

Last Saturday we brought him in to our vet for his annual. We noticed he was dropping weight at a rapid rate in the past month and a half and we wanted to address that as well as any other issues we had. We had the resident cat vet do his exam and she decided that due to his weight to do a full blood panel, fecal analysis and urinalysis to see why he lost weight so fast. Upon further examination she was pretty certain that Buddy was a lot older than we thought (I thought he was 7 or 8, she says 10-12) so this may be an end of life thing.

So we waited until Monday to get the results. His blood panel was all out of whack. Due to that, she referred us to a veterinary radiologist in Middletown and FI (who was amazing during all of this) took the day off from work to drive Buddy up to Middletown for his ultrasound. We knew something was 100% wrong with Buddy when the ultrasound tech commented that he was so docile. Buddy was never docile with a vet, more violent than docile. He HATED the vet. The vet on duty gave FI the prelminary results stating there were nodules on his liver and pancreas but the radiologist would email the full report to my vet.

That afternoon, my vet called and determined along with the veterinary radiologist that there were hundreds of these nodules on his liver and pancreas indicating tumors. They believe that due to the type of tumor that can happen that these tumors produced insulin causing the fast weight loss. She suggested a biopsy and I declined, she agreed. I asked if Prednisone would be an option for weight gain since they use it in humans with cancer sometimes to promote weight gain. She said she would call some of her associates to see and would get back to me.

The vet called back later that night and said we could give Prednisone a try and the prescription was at the vet's office. She stated that even though this might help it'll give a false sense of recovery. I asked her what our options were and she told us they were 1) try the Prednisone 2) do nothing and let him die of natural causes or 3) put him down. I told her we would sleep on it and let her know what we would do.

FI and I cried and talked and cried some more. We didn't want to see Buddy in pain and agony and we didn't want to put off the inevitable. We decided at that point to put Buddy down. It was the hardest decision I ever had to make as a pet owner because to me, I would pay anything to have a healthy pet. Pancreatic cancer is a terrible disease for humans, I couldn't even imagine what it does to animals. He also lot a lot of his moxy and just wasn't the same cat anymore.

The next morning (Wednesday) FI called the vet and made Buddy's final appointment. They were able to get us with the vet that had been working with us for the past week even though she was in surgery all day. I had a feeling she made that happen. I appreciate her for that. That night we ordered pizza and wings and 99% of the time when we order wings, Buddy goes balistic and will grab the wings from the plate, growl at you for 2 minutes and run off with the wing. That night, he wasn't even interested in food.

Thursday, I went to work early and FI had the day off so he cleaned the house and spent some quality time with Buddy (all I know is that on Wednesday we had 4 hot dogs left in the fridge, and when I came back home from work there were 0, so I'm thinking Buddy's last meal was his favorite). When I got home from work I just petted him and spent some quality time with him. We drove to the vet and they took us in right away (which NEVER happens, they're always busy). Our vet came in, hugged us, told us we made the right decision and gave us the run-down on what's going to happen. When the vet reassured to me that we're making the right choice, it made me feel so much better, but still sad. But we were talking and she said the only reason she became a vet is that people could make the choice of not having animals suffer from diseases such as cancer. As a medical doctor, you can't counsel patients on that, and it sucks to see people suffer that way.

After I said my goodbyes to Buddy, I thought I was strong enough to be in the room, but I couldn't. The vet reassured me that he wouldn't know either way, but FI stayed in the room. I didn't cry as much as I thought I would. Seriously, by the time I went back to the desk to pay, I was fine and laughing with the front desk receptionist. I guess seeing him this way the past week prepared me for the inevitable.

Later that night FI and I did about 5 shots each for Buddy and had a few drinks. Weirdly enough, neither of us had a hangover the next day.

Buuuuuuuuut, on a happy note, FI contacted some shelters to see if they had any kittens for adoption and for some reason we really clicked with one shelter in Newtown. We were "screened" for two kittens that are in foster care now that from what the foster mom has told me, they're the "cream of the crop". Will they ever be Buddy? Nope. But will the be a new chapter in our lives? Absolutely because I've never had a kitten before (halp). We're going up there tonight after I get out of work to meet them and hopefully we'll bring them home after they're neutered.

So even though it was sad to put Buddy down, I'm glad I'm opening my doors to cats that need homes. If I had it my way, I would finish our basement and turn it into a cat sanctuary and have like 5 or 6 cats, but FI turned that idea down.

Also, I don't really believe in heaven, hell, etc but I do believe that when you see things that you've never seen before it's a sign from someone deceased knowing that they're still thinking about you. On our way to NY, we have to go through this po-dunk town in Connecticut to get to another highway. While driving through, there was a man fondling himself while waving on the side of the street. I've never seen anything like that before, and I think it's a sign from Buddy in his own orange-cat weird way.

CN: we had to put Buddy down, but are potentially adopting new kittens.

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  • *Hugs* I'm so sorry. Putting a pet down is incredibly hard. Yay for new kittens though! I hope they can make your pain a little less :)


  • @Buddysmom80 - I'm so proud of you for doing what is right for Buddy. I'm also so sad for your loss....huge hugs from me. Putting a pet down is agony but you have to know you really did do the right thing. Kittens are a lot of work but so much fun....I hope you find one that fits you guys. You are right that it will never be Buddy again but it will still be awesome and an adventure for you guys. All the good vibes coming your way.
  • So sorry for your loss - the loss of a pet is never easy.

    Hopefully you'll have a new kitten to help ease the pain soon!


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  • I'm so sorry for your loss.  I remember when I had to put my cat down.  She was 19, I had her since I was 4 so it was a very hard decision, but she was on her last leg of life.  It's been 4 years and I still miss her everyday.  I'm glad that you guys are able to think about adopting some new kitties.
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  • I'm so sorry that you had to make that decision...that's the one part of pet ownership that is absolute torture. Sending lots of hugs for you!!

    But yay for the possibility of new kittens!

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  • I am so sorry for your loss. Putting a pet down is awful but at times, it is what is best. I'm sure you gave Buddy a very rewarding life and he enjoyed every minute of it. I'm glad you guys are looking at adopting a kitten(s).  
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  • I'm so sorry you had to put Buddy down. I still remember my family cat passing away my senior year of high school...I can't imagine having to make that decision. Hopefully you both are at peace with it. I dread the day H and I have to make that decision with our own pets.

    Crossing my fingers that you get your new kittens though! You'll have to share pics if it all works out!

  • @buddysmom80 -I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. Putting a pet down is one of the hardest things I've ever encountered when we put our first family dog down. I couldn't stay in the room either when that happened but when your animal is that sick it's the best thing to do.

    Good luck with finding your new fur baby, it's going to warm your hearts so much to have that baby kitten in your arms. It will never be Buddy but it will have it's own unique and funny personality! 
  • I'm so sorry for your loss.

    Crossing my fingers for new kittens when everything aligns!
  • aw hugs!!  I know NOTHING about having kittens (I'm allergic to cats..) but I wish you the best with whatever the future holds.

    Here is a funny/odd pet story about pets that aren't and weren't mine: in my house in Virginia, there was a shrine/gravesite for Scruffy.  Scruffy died in 1984, which means he was OLDER than H and I.  But his gravesite and grave marker were still there when we moved in.  This is weird.  What's MORE weird is that our new house we are buying (hopefully)?  HAS ANOTHER GRAVE.  This one is a Teddy.  So apparently we buy houses with gravesites and may or may not have ghost dogs living in our houses. 

    Also, my mom loves hot dogs, so she would definitely approve of Buddy's last meal :)
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  • I'm so sorry :( I hope you're able to get new kittens! Please AW them when you do!
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  • I'm so sorry it made me tear up just thinking about it.  Sending you lot of love and hugs.  I'm sure having some new kittens will help ease the pain and you are giving new pets some love and a great home.

     

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  • @buddysmom80 I just teared up at work reading your post. I am sending so many hugs, and I know first hand how difficult it is to put a furry family member down (I have had to do it twice for my dogs who both got very ill). But it sounds like you and your FI gave Buddy an incredible life, and that now you can do so with two new kittens (hopefully)! I can't wait to see pics!

  • All the hugs to you. 
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  • I'm very sorry for your loss. It's such a tough and personal decision but I know you did what was best for Buddy.
  • Aw, I didn't even know Buddy and reading about the changes you saw is making me teary-eyed. :( I can only imagine how tough this was, but it sounds like you did the right thing by him. *Hugs*

    Like you said, even though the kittens won't take his place, I'm excited for a new furbaby (or two? or more?) in your life! Please AW if and when that happens!

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    Haven't finished reading yet, but holy moly I can't believe you guys had to put Buddy down so fast. I'm so sorry! *hugs*

    ETA: Awww, this was such a sad story to read. I teared up a little. I'm so sorry for your loss, but I'm glad Buddy was still there letting you know it's OK in his own weird way... the man fondling himself definitely made me LOL. I hope everything goes well with the kittens tonight! Please AW pics of the little guys if/when you get them! :) 


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  • Sending you lots of hugs. I know it's hard to say goodbye to a long time companion (especially when it's a cat) and I know you did what was best for Buddy.
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  • BreMRBreMR member
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    Uhh, this post was so sad :( It is so hard to lose animals.  I'm glad that you are looking at rescuing kittens!! I lost my cat when I was just out of high school and it took me about a year to feel okay with getting another cat, but I wish I had done it sooner. My current cat is one of my greatest life loves and reminds me so much of my old cat, she would have been great healing medicine!

    I think a cat will help you with that :)
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  • @buddysmom80, all the hugs. Putting a pet down is so tough. I'm glad you're looking at kittens though. 

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    @buddysmon80 It sounds like you made the right decision for Buddy, as hard as it was. I hope you find new love and joy in your new babies! All the hugs!



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