My wedding is sneaking up on me.

ElcaB · July 2014

FI & I have been engaged since December 2012. Now, we have just over three months until the wedding day and I'm starting to experience planning panic.

We have all the big stuff taken care of --- venue, music, photographer, food, and dress. It's the little stuff that is stressing me out --- centerpieces, rentals (our venue comes with just tables and chairs, nothing else), etc. I know I need to prioritize the unknowns and focus on one thing at a time, but HOLY CRAP I'M GETTING MARRIED IN THREE MONTHS!

Any advice? Tips? What kept you ladies sane during crunch time?

AddieCake · July 2014

Squeee! That's all I've got for now. I have had a headache since last night, so I just don't have the energy for a proper response to the actual question. But I'm excited for you!

beethery · July 2014

Make a list make a list make a liiiiiiiist!

SBmini · July 2014

Yay!!! Call your existing vendors for recommendations for the things you don't already have. Your caterer, for example, has probably worked with a variety of linen rental places and can point you in a good direction.

MamaAlly89 · July 2014

I don't know if there is any avoiding planning panic! I'm still freaking out and I'm pretty sure we have everything done, except the stuff we can't do until the week of the wedding. My advice to you is LISTS, LISTS, LISTS! This seriously helped me to have a list of everything I needed to accomplish and to be able to cross it out when it was done. It helped me to not panic or feel overwhelmed. It also calmed my worries about forgetting things. Don't get me wrong I still have my little panic attacks, but I'm just a worrier in general so there's no avoiding it for me.

Oh and wine. Wine is keeping me calm during crunch time.

birdybride2014 · July 2014

Oh my lord I am feeling you! I've been engaged for a year now and our wedding is in November. I haven't done anything wedding planning related in MONTHS! All of the big stuff has been finished. On Sunday night I started going into panic mode! And now I am making lists, lists, and more lists! And rechecking our budget every 10 minutes because I am cray cray.

slothiegal · July 2014

Spreadsheets. Spreadsheets are my crack cocaine.

climbingsingle · July 2014

I keep everything organized with lists. Although I have about 35 lists right now. But it helps. I check it every day to make sure I'm not forgetting something or missing a deadline.

beethery · July 2014

slothiegal said:

Spreadsheets. Spreadsheets are my crack cocaine.

Google sheets and the google sheets app are my two favorite things for organization in the WOOOOOOOOOOOOOORLD.

thisismynickname2 · July 2014

beethery said:

slothiegal said:

Spreadsheets. Spreadsheets are my crack cocaine.

Google sheets and the google sheets app are my two favorite things for organization in the WOOOOOOOOOOOOOORLD.

ESPECIALLY Google, because my FI and I can share the sheets and update them separately as needed. Best invention ever.

SBmini · July 2014

thisismynickname said:

beethery said:

slothiegal said:

Spreadsheets. Spreadsheets are my crack cocaine.

Google sheets and the google sheets app are my two favorite things for organization in the WOOOOOOOOOOOOOORLD.

ESPECIALLY Google, because my FI and I can share the sheets and update them separately as needed. Best invention ever.

Planned my entire wedding in google docs and pinterest. I NEVER brought a notebook or even paper to any meeting with any vendor. Just my phone. Even had our play/do not play list shared with our DJ.

Inkdancer · July 2014

Ice cream sandwiches and Excel = my lifelines.

Bubblegum5586 · July 2014

How exciting! We had a long engagement and boy it did sneak up fast on us! Enjoy this time and try to remind yourself that at the end of the day you are marrying the love of your life and that will make it a successful wedding!

slothiegal · July 2014

Inkdancer said:

Ice cream sandwiches and Excel = my lifelines.

SIB

Toss in a bottle of wine, and you just described a typical night at the slothie household.

southernbelle0915 · July 2014

Make a list of top priorities and delegate half of it to your FI. See if you each can take care of a couple things per week. That ought to ease some stress.

For me, having a plan (and lists!!) is the best stress relief.

Very exicted for you!! Don't get too caught up in these little things though. Be sure to enjoy these next few months!

sarawifenow · July 2014

I hear ya on this one! I can't believe we are so close! What has helped me a lot is to focus on one thing at a time. I seem to get things checked off quicker and it is a lot less overwhelming.

theartistformerlyknownas · July 2014

Spreadsheets are my world. Seriously, they're my job, lol. And they will save your sanity.

Just keep everything organized. I have one big shelving unit for all wedding-related things - BM gifts, parent gifts, boutonnieres, headpiece, favors, invitation supplies, etc. Spreadsheets for all of the expenses, broken down by paid and remaining, subtracted from the amount we're scheduled to deposit into our joint account by D-Day. ($8k short right now, spreadsheet won't fix that. AGH.) Spreadsheets for all the itemized food costs, flower costs with links to purchase and how many stems, gifts received, thank yous sent, etc. I'm also checking things off in chunks - got FG gift last week (CUTEST mermaid jewelry box) and will take care of RB next paycheck. Week after that I'm making my veil.

And wine. So much wine.

wandajune6 · July 2014

We're getting married in October and I'm worried! The big stuff has been done but there's just so much that still needs to be done. We're swearing by Google Docs and keep checking the list but I'm still paranoid.

My aunt just called about my bridal shower. We have a date and a location. I'm so excited but this is suddenly feeling very real!

grumbledore · July 2014

I feel you. My wedding is 4 months from today and I stopped planning it months ago. Now I need to do the little things and... I'm kind of over it. The initial excitement has worn off and I keep thinking "is it worth blowing my free time to worry about flowers/centerpieces/napkin color/etc" and the answer keeps being no. Don't get me wrong, I want to get married, but I really get why people elope now.

SmileDamnit · July 2014

I so hear ya! The 3 month mark was when I had my first "holy shit!" moment. Now I'm at 10 days out and I've reached a whole new level of panic. It's the little things, I swear, that cause more stress than the big things. Had a great big ol' glass of wine last night and let FI talk me down and now I feel much better. And God bless my retired (type-A uber organized and lover of all things planning) mother.

ElcaB · July 2014

For some reason, reading this has made me feel better.

Last night at dinner one of my BMs asked me about the wedding. I've made an effort throughout my engagement to not be one of those women who can only talk about her wedding, and I've done a great job. Because of this, BM was shocked when I started to cry when she asked me about it. She said she figured since I haven't been talking about it, I was calm, cool, and collected & had all my ducks in a row.

I let it out and told her about everything I was stressed about and she was fantastic! She's going on vacation in a week, but promised when she gets back she'll come spend a day with me getting some wedding stuff in order if I want her to. I really needed this!

FI is willing to help, we just have difficulty with coordinating our schedules. He definitely has some wedding tasks he's taking care of on his own, but the majority of the decisions are mine to make since he doesn't care about things like whether or not we have ivory or white linens and what we do for the centerpieces.

My wedding is sneaking up on me.

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