Flights for wedding

djfivenine · July 2014

Hello! I need your opinions, please.

So Southwest Airlines has periodic sales, where flights get pretty cheap. They had a super-sale a few months ago so I sent an email to our out of town guests (bcc'ed) letting them know about the sale. Save the dates had gone out, but not invitations, and I even said something along the lines of "no need to decide yes or no yet, but if you had already decided yes, here's this airfare sale that you could take advantage of." I made sure to only send it to guests that live in cities with SW airports, and there are three airports within 30 minutes of where our wedding is that Southwest flies to.

Anyway, so to my question. I sent this email I think back in April, and Southwest is having another sale now. My fiance wants me to email everyone again, but I feel like if I do we might be pushing people to RSVP. Our invites will go out later this month, and our wedding is last weekend in September.

What do you think? My attitude is, we already told them once, they should be able to figure it out from here. But, my fiance really wants to be able to help them save money if at all possible, and sees no problem with a 2nd reminder.

Thanks!

Jen4948 · July 2014

To be honest, I'd feel nagged if I got a second reminder.

It's really up to me to determine if those flights work for me. If those flights are at times of the day that don't work for me or have other restrictions that make them not work for me, and I'd already figured that out the first time you sent this, I wouldn't appreciate hearing about it again. It won't help anyone to save money by sending them notices about discounts or other deals they can't take advantage of.

Just leave it alone and let everyone figure out their own flights.

gothic_fairy60 · July 2014

I would personally find it a little pushy, but I also probably wouldn't have booked during the first sale if I had recently got the STD. Some people need time to pull the finances together.

slothiegal · July 2014

Eh, I'd leave it be. They're adults, they know how to look for affordable flights.

Kauris · July 2014

I have a friend getting married in NYC in April and I am already monitoring flight prices. I would feel like you thought I was incompetent if I received more than one email about it. So I would err on the side of caution on this and not send another email.

PrettyGirlLost · July 2014

Tell your FI to chill and step away from the computer.

As a guest to an OOT wedding I would never book a flight until after I received a formal invitation. Too many ppl are rude enough to trim their guest list after STDs have gone out AND I have been invited to two weddings that were actually called off. Luckily they were both local, no PTO or flights involved.

sarahufl · July 2014

I would find this really rude and strange. I would not send a reminder.

In fact, if I received not one, but TWO reminders to book flights, I would re-consider attending your wedding at all.

I am an adult and can make travel arrangements for myself.

AddieCake · July 2014

I would feel nagged.

jnissa · July 2014

I'm going to be honest with you that I might even have side eyed the first email. While the intent behind it was lovely, my honest to goodness response would be "I'm an adult." Unless I were talking about your wedding with you all of the time, I would have felt like it was overkill, especially since it was only after STD's and not invitations. So, that said, I would certainly feel nagged and treated like a child (even though I get that the intent is kind) with a second email.

djfivenine · July 2014

Ok, I'm glad you guys confirmed what I initially thought. I will tell FI to chill out and trust that our friends are smart

Thank you!

mysticl · July 2014

I have a frequent flyer membership to another airline so that's who I book with unless they don't fly where I'm going. So at best I'd ignore the e-mails and worse I'd get annoyed and wonder why you were pushing the airline so hard.

lovesclimbing · July 2014

If it was someone like a VIP - parents, BFF, siblings - I might mention it, but I wouldn't tell everyone or send a mass email.

QueerFemme · July 2014

I agree with everyone else, I would feel like it was major overkill.

Nymeru · July 2014

Yeah, don't do it. The only people it might be appropriate for are for close family members who might need to be careful with finances.

melbenso · July 2014

I wouldn't send out another group email. Like PP said, it seems a little pushy.

But if you have close friends or family in those cities that you talk to regularly and you know are coming and haven't bought their plane tickets yet, I don't see any harm in mentioning it if you happen to talk them while the sale is going on: "It looks like Southwest is having another airfare sale." I wouldn't call or email specifically for that purpose though.

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