Hello! This is my first post but I have been looking around for my whole two year engagement. My wedding is 8/2/14 and my bridal shower was on 6/28/14. I have had a lot of small problems with my fils, one of my fi's sisters said some pretty terrible things to me in a text message when I did nothing to warrant it (my fi agrees with this and so do most members of the family). His other sister just ignores me and his mom and dad take their side and no longer try with me. This happens because the sisters no longer control my fi and can't take advantage of him. He is also the black sheep of his family, I think his mom never wanted a son so she only pays attention to the girls. They are also upset that his sisters are not in the wedding as bridesmaids (I am only having two) or singing. After multiple problems my MOH who is also my sister and mother decided to let them hold the bridal shower since it was going to be all their family. The wedding is also 75% their side and my family didn't want to pay for two parties for them (the wedding and bridal shower). They seemed happy to do it and did a fine job with it, the problem comes that his mom or sisters only said hello and goodbye to me the ignored me the rest of the time. The family also has a tradition to create a booklet out of all of the cards. I did not get a say or was even asked if this would be okay they declared it and took my cards. I was oak with it in the end because I was happy they were trying. They ended up spilling wine on my cards twice. Both times my sister's card got the worst of it. They never apologized or the sister that spilled didn't even say goodbye. I am someone that saves all my cards for everything I find them special, my mother also has all of her bridal cards and baby shower cards and finds them precious because they are from people who are no longer with us. They also refuse to talk about the wedding or ask any questions, they are holding the rehearsal dinner and want to make it almost as big as the wedding, without inviting my out of town guest or my grandparents. I am really worried they are going to spill on me on my wedding day or do other things to ruin it. My fi has already talked to his sisters multiple times and they just blow him off. I really want him to talk to his mom one more time before the wedding.