Should I invite new friends?

carrielovesroxy · July 2014

I started a new job just over a month ago, and my wedding is about a month and a half away. I've made several friends at the new job, and had I met them a few months ago, they would be invited to the wedding without a second thought. I hang out with them out of work, and they always ask me about wedding things and are super excited for me, which is nice. They are pretty much my only local support, I moved right after school and have no family or other friends in the area besides FI.

Space isn't an issue for us, we're about 15 people below our max budget right now, and our venue doesn't have a minimum head count, so we would be fine with our current guest list or with the new friends added on. It's definitely not a seat filling thing, either way is ok with us, I would like my new friends to be there with us for our wedding but am not sure if I met them too late, if that makes sense. I don't want to sound like I'm B-listing or anything.

Should I invite them, or should I not bother because I haven't known them for too long? And if I should extend an invite, how should I go about doing it?

Thank you in advance for your input

Teddy917 · July 2014

Go ahead and invite them. Just send the invite to their house; don't give them out at work.

pegasuskat · July 2014

I would mail them an invite. 6 weeks out won't look like B - listing and you say you have the space so go for it!

bethsmiles · July 2014

Invite who you want! If you would enjoy their presence there and can afford the extra people I don't see why you wouldn't.

Jen4948 · July 2014

If you have the space for them as well as their SOs and can afford it I don't see why not.

I agree with PPs about sending their invitations to them at home. And if you're not inviting everyone at the office then I'd minimize wedding talk there.

short+sassy · July 2014

I've read on other posts where this kind of thing is usually considered an exception to the "B" list. Mainly because it is understood by all that they are being invited later than normal because they are NEW friends...not because they didn't make the "A" list tier. I was invited to a wedding like this. A woman started work in my office and was getting married about 6 weeks later. I was excited to talk to her about her wedding, even though I never expected an invitation because we hadn't known each other that long. She gave me an invitation about two weeks before the event. I was not offended at all. Just the opposite. I was really touched she wanted to include me in her event, even though our friendship was new.