So me and FI are going to Michigan next week to do some wedding planning, just looking at venues and meeting an officiant. We've had a tenative guest list for while, that way we can figure out our budget and such. Then last night he totally freaked out on me and said that my family was going to be smothering him and his family at the wedding at that I needed to cut people from my list.
FI's family is significantly smaller than mine, his family consists of about 30 people on our guest list, his family friends make up another 10-15. My family, especially my mom's side is huge they make up about 60 people on my guest list, and I also have a ton of Family friends that I grew up with during different periods of my life that finish off the list. He's seen the guest list, he's fully aware of the people that we are planning on inviting, the list has existed fro months, and now he suddenly freaks out and says that its ridiculus and that they're going to be smothering his family and on and on and on.
It's not a budget issue, we have enough room in our budget to add more people, and I've told him he's free to put whoever else he wants to on the guest list. I just don't know what to do all of those people have been a major part of my life, and I feel that he doesn't understand that because his group is so small and since we group up in such different places and our family dynamics are so different.
I'm not inviting everybody i know. People i'm not close with aren't getting invited. There are a good number of people that i'm not inviting, theres a lot of people on my dad's side that i'm not close with so they aren't being invited. But all he sees is the huge amount of people on my side. And there's no way my family could smother him. My grandparents are our nearest family and thats a 5 hour drive away.
I guess i'm just really frustrated and this is part vent and part asking for help.