Would you still send the invite?

smalfrie19 · July 2014

I have a friend (or someone I thought was a friend) who is getting married two weeks before me. I sent her a message the other day asking to confirm her address for her wedding invite. She said that they may not be able to make it because they would be hmooning or working. I told her that's ok, I will send the invite anyways in case plans changed. She said she knows how expensive invites are and its best just not to send it.....Would you still send the invite? She didn't confirm her address and it just really seemed to me that she didn't want to be invited.

lc07 · July 2014

If she does not give you the address, I would not send the invite.

Nymeru · July 2014

I wouldn't send her one. She basically told you not to, so it sounds like she has no intention of going anyway.

Simply Fated · July 2014

smalfrie19 said:

I have a friend (or someone I thought was a friend) who is getting married two weeks before me. I sent her a message the other day asking to confirm her address for her wedding invite. She said that they may not be able to make it because they would be hmooning or working. I told her that's ok, I will send the invite anyways in case plans changed. She said she knows how expensive invites are and its best just not to send it.....Would you still send the invite? She didn't confirm her address and it just really seemed to me that she didn't want to be invited.

She still hasn't confirmed her address? If she has, just send her one. Plans change, you never know. Plus, her remark about how it's expensive sounds potentially snarky and it would make me want to send her one just to be, like, I gots teh monies for it.

If she is still beating around the bush about confirming her address, just let it go. Let it go!!!! *breaks out into song*

AddieCake · July 2014

I would say yes, but since she didn't give you an address, that question seems to have answered itself.

southernbelle0915 · July 2014

You can't really send an invite without an address, so there you are.

smalfrie19 · July 2014

Well I have an address, but they are waiting on a short sale, so I initially contacted her to confirm if they will still be there and that's when she said don't bother. It just came off to me that she was really saying "don't send one" but I figured asking for the address was a verbal invite. I just won't send it, saves on postage.

AddieCake · July 2014

Yeah, I wouldn't send it, then. Ouch. I'm sorry she was so unfriendly.

RebeccaFlower · July 2014

Don't bother, she clearly doesn't expect you to.

slothiegal · July 2014

Bizarre. Yeah, I guess at this point don't even bother.

mimivac · July 2014

I wonder if she is saying that because she believes she would have to send a gift if she received an invite?

mrs4everhart · July 2014

No, I wouldn't bother. I wouldn't beg someone for their address who instead of giving it to me when I asked for it led with, "oh, don't bother, I won't be able to make it." Who has time for that kind of nonsense?

climbingsingle · July 2014

Weird. I wouldn't send it.

theartistformerlyknownas · July 2014

That's weird. I would normally say send one anyway (I mean come on, it's a couple bucks) but not if she's being so weird about it.

I had a similar sitch sending Save the Dates... friend sold everything and moved to a sailboat in the Caribbean, but she still comes home from time to time, and she had told me how excited she was for my wedding. I asked where she was receiving mail and she said "don't bother." Oh. OK then. :-\

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