HELP HELP HELP!!!

Re: HELP HELP HELP!!!

• beachyone15 member

  

  July 2014

  If you want to elope or have a small ceremony, then just do it!
  

  
  
  
  
  
  
  

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• mrsmorales2be mod

  

  July 2014

  Sounds like you need to plan a small, simple wedding that suits both of your tastes, with a nice, simple, well-hosted reception.  Congrats.  That's pretty much what lots of us here are doing. You're in good company. 

  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• sarawifenow member

  

  July 2014

  futuremrskade said:

  My fiancé and I have been together for 4 years, we moved in together just 2 months after being together and we've been living as if we were married ever since. Our relationship is quite amazing, due to the fact that we love simplicity. If the situations are in our hands, we try to not complicate it. All of the weddings him and I have attended were at big elaborate cathedrals and chapels, with HUGE receptions with 2-3-400 people present. and wedding parties with 5-10 bridesmaids and groomsmen. Which leads us to our biggest complication..... We're so torn on how to go about our wedding. We've thrown out the idea of eloping and then having a reception shortly after, or, having a small brief ceremony in the same location of our reception. Something short sweet and straight to the point. We feel there is no need to go all out for the ceremony since: A) we've been living as if we're married for almost 4 years now already. Our guest list is small, only 100 people all together. C) We both would only have 1 person each for our wedding party. We feel like going all out like the weddings we've attended is just a little much for us, given we would be paying for most of this ourselves, not to mention we love S I M P L I C I T Y. This bride to be is lost lost LOST!!! Any advice or ideas you wonderful ladies have would be much appreciated

  Anybody invited to the reception should be at the ceremony. It is rude to not do so.

   

  Why can't you just do a simple ceremony with no wedding party in the same location as your reception? Also, if you have your wedding at a non-meal time, you can do a simple cake and punch reception.
  

  

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• xnotbobx member

  

  July 2014

  Cake and coffee at 2.
  

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• blabla89 member

  

  July 2014

  You are not obligated to throw a big party. A simple, small wedding (although I wouldn't consider 100 guests to be small) is perfectly fine. As long as you're happy and you're hosting your guests properly, there is no need to go over the top. It's also fine to have a small WP, or not have one at all.
  
  Start by making a list of what things are most important to you in a wedding, in order of importance, and have your FI do the same. The things that are not important to you two, not required for the comfort of your guests, and not essential to actually getting married, you can cut those things out. That should help you simplify.
  

  

  
  
  

  
  

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• southernbelle0915 mod

  

  July 2014

  Just because other people in your circle had giant weddings, doesn't mean you need to. 

  
  

  Plan the wedding you want and don't worry about what you think others will "expect". 

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• RebeccaFlower member

  

  July 2014

  For someone who is all about simplicity, I think you're making this way more complicated than it needs to be You just need to nail down what you want for a wedding, not based on others expectations or previously attended weddings. 

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• JCbride2015 member

  

  July 2014

  RebeccaFlower said:

  For someone who is all about simplicity, I think you're making this way more complicated than it needs to be You just need to nail down what you want for a wedding, not based on others expectations or previously attended weddings. 

  This.  Just plan the wedding you want.  If that's a small ceremony and reception in the same place, great.  Relax.  You could go to the courthouse next week if you wanted to, with a few witnesses, and take them for lunch afterwards.  As long as you're married at the end of the day and whatever guests you invite are well-hosted, you're good.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  "I'm not a rude bitch.  I'm ten rude bitches in a large coat."

  
  

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• Maggie0829 member

  

  July 2014

  Just because others had elaborate and huge weddings does not mean that is the only way to do it.  If you want to elope or have something small and simple then do just that.  Stop worrying about what you have seen done and just do what you and your FI feel is right for your wedding.

  
  

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• climbingsingle member

  

  July 2014

  Plan the wedding you want! 

  
  

  We wanted something simple and easy as well. We're having the ceremony and reception at the same venue. I've cut out things I thought were not necessary, like flowers and favors. 

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• Inkdancer member

  

  July 2014

  Sometimes people complain about you doing something different, because "that's the way things have always been done"--right up until they are there, and it turns out you had a great idea, and everyone is having a lovely time.
  
  Do whatever suits you best, and people will appreciate it as long as there is enough food.
  

  

  

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• AprilH81 member

  

  July 2014

  Our wedding had about 80 guests (I was surprised our guest list was that big) and we each had only one attendant.  It was elegant and just what I wanted.

  
  

  You don't have to have a big wedding if you don't want to.

  

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• xnotbobx member

  

  July 2014

  I'm not planning any time soon, but I dearly want cake and coffee at a maximum.
  
  All the other family weddings have been side-eye inducing. No, thank you.
  
  If you won't come because there's no booze, and just snackies, then more cake for me! And by cake, I mean frosting.
  

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