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Loveislouder's Stupid Question of the Day

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What the heck is a wedding theme, do I need one and how do I follow it lol
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    No you do not need a wedding theme.  Apparently the wedding industry has made it seem important that you need to have a wedding theme (winter wonderland, desert princess, lord of the rings, etc) or how in the world will you know how to decorate and coordinate everything?!?!

    Basically just visualize your wedding day and that is your "theme."  My "theme" was pretty decor in purples and greens LOL!

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  • beachyone15beachyone15 member
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    Our wedding theme is "wedding".


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  • tammym1001tammym1001 member
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    You don't need a theme. I had a theme because I love so many things and I needed to be able to keep myself focused. It was "champagne, wine, and roses". That kept me on track for the colors, favors, flowers, etc. It turned out really nice, but if you had asked someone what our wedding theme was they would have said "wedding?". 
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  • mysticlmysticl member
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    Many, many (like over half my life)  years ago one of my cousins was getting married and I was leafing through a wedding magazine.  There was an advice column and one of the people who wrote in mentioned the theme for her wedding.  The columnist's reply stated that the theme for a wedding is "wedding" and there should not be any other type of theme.  I have no idea why that has stuck with me for all these years but it's floating around in my brain for some reason.  
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  • MobKazMobKaz member
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    Most would tell you that "wedding" IS the theme.  Pinterest and multiple wedding industry sites will tell you your wedding needs a "real" theme, such as vintage glamour, country chic, or Disney.  Most "themes" mean different things to different brides.

    Typically, a bride will select colors that reflect either the season of the wedding or the favorites of the wedding couple.  Often, those colors will then carry into flowers and decor.  Some couples may insert their personality into the decor, but this is best done in a subtle way.  Someone with a love of books may incorporate books into their centerpieces, have escort cards made to look like miniature books, or create a cookie favor that looks like a book.  They might use book titles instead of numbers to indicate tables for their guests.

    A wedding should be a reflection of the bride and groom.  It should not be a clone of what some website says you must have or do.
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  • loveislouderloveislouder member
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    @mobkaz Thank you! And thank you to the rest of you as well. i kinda figured I didn't necessarily need one. I've never been on Pinterest and I don't want to start now lol. I think we'll just stick to our colours, incorporate the dragons he wants (I know, we're nerds but we embrace it) and be happy regardless lol
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  • slothiegalslothiegal member
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    Haha when I first got engaged, I drowned myself in wedding magazines, websites, etc. and became convinced we needed a "theme". When I brought it up to FI, he looked at me like I had grown three heads. "What the hell is a 'wedding theme'?  Are you drunk?"

    Needless to say, I quickly got over it.
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    loveislouder said:
    @mobkaz Thank you! And thank you to the rest of you as well. i kinda figured I didn't necessarily need one. I've never been on Pinterest and I don't want to start now lol. I think we'll just stick to our colours, incorporate the dragons he wants (I know, we're nerds but we embrace it) and be happy regardless lol
    This is a very good decision. I found Pinterest after my wedding and all I thought was "Thank God I didn't see this while I was planning because I would have been fucking crazy."

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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    See! Now we're thinking!
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  • loveislouderloveislouder member
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    Lol well... I could use the million bucks to have a PPD :P
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  • ShallowSeasShallowSeas member
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    You definitely don't need a theme, just a 'feel'.  We don't have a theme, but we wanted the wedding to feel laid back and intimate which set the feel for the decor.  We chose to do lanterns and lots of candle light to get an intimate feel.  We also chose calming colors, more casual attire, and mostly non-traditional music to feel more laid back.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    We sort of had a theme, which was river rocks and branches. We used branches and river rocks in the centerpieces and other decor, had branches on the invitations, river rock guest book and escort cards, and had chocolate rocks as favors. I didn't think of it as a theme at the time, though, just more of a "We like all these river rock and branches ideas, so let's have them at our wedding." But in hindsight, it really was kind of a theme. OMG, guys, I had a theme. Don't shun me. 
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  • lizzypoo96lizzypoo96 member
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    Yeah- I don't think of it as a "theme" just more of a "focus"- making sure that it's cohesive. For example if you're using dragons maybe throwing in lots of bling on the decor might not work well together? 

    And it's all a matter of personal preference. I think vendors use the term "theme" when really they just want a sense for your vision and focus. My florist asked for my theme when she used it to find common ground with what I was looking for. I was taken a back cause I don't think of myself as having a theme but once I explained some of the other elements she was able to put together exactly what I wanted.
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  • alpacalunchalpacalunch member
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    lizzypoo96 said:
    Yeah- I don't think of it as a "theme" just more of a "focus"- making sure that it's cohesive. For example if you're using dragons maybe throwing in lots of bling on the decor might not work well together? 

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    But seriously, I don't think a theme is necessary by any means. Your wedding should reflect the two of you, that's all. If there's something you both love and want to have that included in your wedding however, power to you
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