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Very few RSVP's

mariahlr10mariahlr10 member
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Having not been to many weddings makes me kind of dumb in the wedding etiquette department..

We have received about 1/3 of our RSVP's and our wedding is in 28 days. There are quite a few people that I am pretty sure are coming, but haven't rsvp'd yet (I definitely don't want to just assume that they are.)

My question is if it is okay to call people that have not RSVP'd and ask if they are coming? If so, how close to the wedding should I wait to do so. I honestly have no clue if that is a big no-no or not. I just don't want to be that rude bride that does and you all seem to know what's going on wedding etiquette-wise. 

Thanks in advance for your help! :)
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Re: Very few RSVP's

  • sarals24sarals24 member
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    Did you put an "RSVP by" date on your cards? If so, has it passed? If it has passed, there is no issue with calling the guests before your catering deadline. Or you could split the list up and have your mom and MIL call their guests. That's what we did for about 10 or so people who didn't respond.
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  • Teddy917Teddy917 member
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    When is your RSVP by date? Start calling a few days after that.
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  • luckysnorkelluckysnorkel member
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    I was waiting on exactly half of my RSVPs for the longest time.  My RSVP deadline is today and people are finally responding in droves.  Folks really do like to wait until the literal last minute.
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  • April192002April192002 member
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    edited July 2014

    1. What date, if any, did you put on the RSVP card? You can start calling after the date indicated.

    2. When does your caterer need a headcount by? Is there another vendor who would need to know a final count? If you didn't put an RSVP date, or put the actual date you need to let your caterer/vendor know, start calling about 1 week before that date you have to know by.

    With your wedding being 4 weeks from now, I would start making phone calls this coming weekend. If you can't get in touch with someone, or they don't respond to your message, call them back on Wed/Thurs (of next week) and remind them of the deadline.

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  • OnionBreathOnionBreath member
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    I would call after the RSVP date. 

    I know many people RSVP late. I am traditionally one of those people but after I saw what my friend went through for her wedding, I will be a lot quicker in the future.  She assumed people weren't coming and started making her table arrangements and then got a ton all around the RSVP date for "yes" and had a fit re-doing everything.  I know she was irrational, since she set the date and all, but she was very emotional in general.
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