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Small wedding - She invited herself to my wedding!

KimbyKKimbyK member
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I am having a small wedding - I am only allowed to have 30 people (thats all my all inclusive package for the wedding / reception allows for). Is it rude not to allow some people to bring guests?

Example-
Last weekend, we were out with a bunch of friends, and my fiances best friend had just started dating a girl. Well the girl asked me if she could come to my wedding. I felt super uncomfortable, and could not believe she basically just invited herself to my wedding! So to get out of the converstion, I told her that I will have to talk to my fiance about the guest list and such. Sort of blew it off.

Not too sure how to handle the situation. Is it rude of me to not allow her to come? But if I do, I have to redo my guest list to cut someone off - so that she could have that seat.

What do I do?!
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Re: Small wedding - She invited herself to my wedding!

  • ootmother2ootmother2 member
    Tenth Anniversary 5000 Comments 25 Love Its First Answer
    Just tell her that the wedding will be very small, closest friends and family only.

    You don't have to be polite as her asking is appallingly rude
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    She was rude, and you were right to just avoid the question.

    However, if you are inviting someone that is in a relationship, you do have to invite the s/o.  I can't tell from your post if she is the friend's girlfriend or just someone he's casually dating.  
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  • KimbyKKimbyK member
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    Sorry I should have stated that - he is casually dating. For a few weeks now. I have only met her that one time.
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  • libby2483libby2483 member
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    If they don't consider themselves a couple and are just casually dating, you are fine not inviting her.  I find it very rude that she asked.  I had a friend of a friend ask if he could come to my wedding.  He said, and I quote, "It's okay if I don't even come to dinner, as long as I can be there for drinks and partying."  I was speechless that someone would actually ask to come to my wedding, especially because I would never spend time with this person outside our mutual friend.  I just mumbled something about still working on the guest list and changed the subject.
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  • jmp2004jmp2004 member
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    Agree with PP that she was extremely rude in asking.  But I disagree that even if she was a "girlfriend" that you would have to invite her.  Someone important to someone that is important to you does not have to be at your important day, especially if you don't know them.  And even moreso when it is a destination wedding with a limited guest list.
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  • snuff9861snuff9861 member
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    If your friend was single when the invitations went out then you do not have to invite her.
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