Is this Weird or rude?

Re: Is this Weird or rude?

• JoanE2012 member

  

  July 2014

  cwradford said:

  Hi all,

  So I know that I want the standard photos on my wedding day.  But I also have lots of families that were around when I was growing up that I want photos with even though they aren't actually related to me, it takes a village right? I was wondering if it was rude of me to put a card in their invitation that said something like "The bride and groom would like to take pictures with you and your family directly following the ceremony, please meet them by so and so after the conclusion of the ceremony."  

  I figure if I take all of the single sided family and WP pictures before the ceremony then right after the ceremony me and FI can take pictures with all of these families really quickly before we send them to the cocktail hour and then get just WP and bride and groom photos.  The ceremony will be outside and I figured I would just take a bunch of pictures in the surrounding area before we go to other picture sites.

  
  

  It seems a bit strange.  Is the ceremony/cocktail hour at the same location where you could just round everyone up that you would want?  We had several sets of families/friends that we wanted photos with and we took them during the reception right after dinner.....our venue had a nice open area in the lobby with fireplaces so we did it then.

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• falsara member

  

  July 2014

  No its at a different location.  We're having our ceremony at an orchard but because of the townships restrictions they cant serve alcohol, so our reception is at a banquet hall about a 20 minute drive away in a larger town.  The orchard is so pretty though so I want to get most of my photos done there and I figured everyone will be there so we could just get them done.

   

                                             

  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• photokitty mod

  

  July 2014

  I would not ask people to wait around to take photos with you. How many families are you talking about? If it's more than 2 or 3 it's going to take a little while and I would just get a photo with them at the reception.

  
  

  We took a photo with all our wedding guests immediately afar the ceremony - would this work for you? We did not do bubbles or any kind of exit. Just walked out side ad took a group photo when everyone was outside.

  ~xoxo~

  
  

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• falsara member

  

  July 2014

  @photokitty - it wil be more than two or three.  I'm a military kid and all of these family's are part of me growing up all over the world.  The only reason I was thinking about not  taking them during the reception is that the reception is indoors and its a huge hall with horrible lighting.  Which is fine when the lights go out and we're dancing, but not so good for photos, even though I know my Pro Photog has flash and and all those handy gadgets.  To get decent pics I would have to drag everyone outside whish would be just as much of a pain.  Thanks for the help!

                                             

  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• photokitty mod

  

  July 2014

  If they are important to you and you are important to them then I think it's up to you If you do a first look and get all the other photos before hand then it will cut down on the amount of time people miss of the cocktail hour and should be as much of an inconvenience.

  ~xoxo~

  
  

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• jenna8984 member

  

  July 2014

  I don't think it's a big deal or rude to have them wait for 5 minutes and grab a quick picture with you in the nice setting and move right along. But the generic card in the invitation might be a little confusing. I'd receive it & think everyone got one and then wonder why everyone else was leaving directly after. I'd let them know on the phone "hey don't leave immediately, we want a quick pic with you guys and a few others" or I'd hand write the note to them with their name on it (in the invitation) so they know it's meant for them and not every guest.

                                                                   

  
  

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• falsara member

  

  July 2014

  @jenna8984 Thanks for the advice!  Writing them a note sounds like a great idea!! 

   

                                             

  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• JMS62415 member

  

  July 2014

  I don't think it's wrong to ask them to stay. It shows how important they are to you but I think you should call me so there's no misunderstanding and so they know exactly what to do. 

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• lc07 member

  

  July 2014

  I agree with the PPs suggestions to tell them personally over the phone or with a separate note. Also, see if you can have some kind of beverage/food options available while people wait for photos.

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