Maybe it's just me?

alpacalunch · July 2014

So I was having a drink with a friend the other day, and she was relaying the story of a friend's sisters wedding. It struck me as a little off.

So there are three sisters; Betty, Veronica and Midge. Betty and Veronica are both engaged, Betty is getting married this weekend, and Veronica later this year.

Betty and Veronica are each others MOHs, which is nice. Betty has been pretty relaxed, but as the date gets closer is stressing a little more (fair enough).

Veronica's FI, Reggie, has been under the weather for a while. One night last week, he feels so rough, Veronica brings him to the ER. Turns out, his appendix has apparently burst, and has caused a number of other issues for his insides. He's been in hospital, in serious condition, for several days.

Instead of a single inquiry as to Reggie's health, Betty has been sending several emails a day to Veronica, all wedding related.

Veronica has mentioned she may not be able to attend the wedding, depending on Reggie's condition. She has now been scolded by SEVERAL members of their family, including Midge, and told she's a bad sister yada yada yada.

So I'm an only child, so maybe I don't understand the sibling politics, but... Really? I probably wouldn't go to the wedding if I were in Veronica's shoes. I can't even wrap my head around Betty's behaviour. Midge fully backs Betty, and when my friend commented that the behaviour seemed harsh, Midge got really upset.

Is this actually just me?

KatieinBkln · July 2014

I don't think it's just you. I think this family sounds dysfunctional as hell.

Health crises are more important than parties. Period. I know it's Veronica's sister's wedding--does Betty think Veronica doesn't know that? But Reggie is sick, and sick people need support (you know, the actual kind, not the kind brides seem to think is crucial). It's not a matter of choosing Reggie over Veronica. It's a matter of choosing the more serious situation over a party.

And Midge needs to fucking chill because it's not actually her business.

larrygaga · July 2014

All of my sisters are my closest friends and I would die for them, I love them that much. However, those siblings are being crazy. A wedding is important, but not THE MOST IMPORTANT THING EVERRRR

theartistformerlyknownas · July 2014

Yeah no this is ridiculous.

loveislouder · July 2014

... Uhh.... my sister may be an offensive idiot sometimes but if her (non-existant) FI were in the hospital in serious condition, I'd probably be there too.

beethery · July 2014

I'm an only child too, and fully on the same page as you. I can't believe the rest of Veronica's family is going in on her like that when she's just being there for her FI who is clearly going through health problems. Sounds like a damn mess. An UNNECESSARY MESS.

JCbride2015 · July 2014

Wow. I love my sister, but I would definitely choose being in the hospital with Fi over attending her wedding. @Katieinbkln said it best: health crisis > party.

southernbelle0915 · July 2014

You and your friend = normal

This family = not normal

WTF is wrong with these people. Poor Reggie.

He and Veronica aren't married yet so there's still time to RUN!!!!!!

emmyg65 · July 2014

Yeah, that's not okay. My dad's appendix burst and it was a mess. I can't imagine having to attend a wedding at that time.

AddieCake · July 2014

They are out if line.

sarahufl · July 2014

I would be super bummed if my siblings had to miss my wedding. But I would never give them shit for it, especially in a case like this.

lc07 · July 2014

They are crazy. I would be in the hospital with my FI around the clock. He could die from this. It's really serious.

OnionBreath · July 2014

They are crazy, but I love your devotion to Archie Comics here

VulgarGirl · July 2014

My brothers are both quiet a bit younger then me, but I can say if one of them put my wedding above the health of their partner, I would kick their asses so fast. It wouldn't even be a question to me that of course Veronica might not be able to make my wedding, she shouldn't even worry about it, focus on Reggie.

I'd probably have the caters make up a few to-go plates and box up some wedding cake so she could have a meal that isn't hospital food (Reggie too if it's ok for him to eat regular food).

Yes, it'd hurt a little. Not because my wedding is the mostest importanest day EVER!!! But because someone I care about wouldn't be able to make it. And that'd be an "Aw crap that sucks" and then I'd get over it and hope Reggie gets better. I think it'd be similar to feeling hurt a friend couldn't fly in for the wedding. Gee I wish you could be here, sucks that you can't, but I'm a grown up and understand.

And if I did act like Betty, my mother, father, step-mothers, grandma, uncles, cousins, FFILs, and yes even FI would happily kick my ass for getting pissy about my family member taking care of their very ill partner instead of attending my wedding.

climbingsingle · July 2014

That is hella crazy. My aunt's appendix burst a few years and it was very serious.

theexactlee · July 2014

That is incredibly rude and disrespectful both towards veronica and Reggie. But honestly siblings will often look for reasons to fight, especially sisters. Those wedding shows are filled with sister drama. Probably if veronica had said she'd make it no matter what they'd have said she was a bad partner and scold her for that.

PS: I love when you tell stories.

sophhabobopha · July 2014

What fucking psychos.

alpacalunch · July 2014

OnionBreath said:

They are crazy, but I love your devotion to Archie Comics here

Merci.

Thank you, all, for validating my thoughts here. These people are truly cuckoobananapants.

iloveotters2014 · July 2014

depending on how my H was doing that day I would probably attend the ceremony if it was in town....but leave right after to be with my very sick husband....and if my sister didn't understand I would punch her in the face. That's nuts.

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