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RD attire

KaurisKauris member
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We are having our RD at a really cool winery, it's in a private building on the property. I've already had people ask what the attire is, so do I just tell them what I'm wearing? I am probably going to be more dressed up than I would expect anyone else to be, and I honestly don't expect them to dress up at all.  But is that appropriate? We are hosting and just want everyone to have another nice meal and have fun with closer friends and family. I don't expect them to dress up.

Also Our photographer is going to be there for two hours, which we opted for instead of doing bridal portraits for two hours (which seems ridiculous to me anyway). Should I mention this when people ask what to wear?
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  • lc07lc07 member
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    kasmith1 said:
    We are having our RD at a really cool winery, it's in a private building on the property. I've already had people ask what the attire is, so do I just tell them what I'm wearing? I am probably going to be more dressed up than I would expect anyone else to be, and I honestly don't expect them to dress up at all.  But is that appropriate? We are hosting and just want everyone to have another nice meal and have fun with closer friends and family. I don't expect them to dress up.

    Also Our photographer is going to be there for two hours, which we opted for instead of doing bridal portraits for two hours (which seems ridiculous to me anyway). Should I mention this when people ask what to wear?
    I wouldn't mention the photographer. That would sound like you care what they wear in photos and it could put more pressure on the guests.

    I would tell them that they can wear whatever they feel best in and mention the venue if they want to look it up online, what I am wearing, what my mom/sister/dad/brother/FI intends to wear so that they have a good idea of what guests will be wearing since you might be dressed up more than what's necessary. 
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  • manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    Yeah, don't mention the photographer. I'd feel like you were trying to make sure I look good for YOUR camera, you know?

    My default was telling people what I or H was wearing, or what my sisters/BMs were wearing. "I'm dressing up because I can, but I think most of my bridesmaids were planning on sundresses and wedges. I'm sure the guys will be in slacks and a polo." 
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  • delujm0delujm0 member
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    PDKH said:
    Yeah, don't mention the photographer. I'd feel like you were trying to make sure I look good for YOUR camera, you know?

    My default was telling people what I or H was wearing, or what my sisters/BMs were wearing. "I'm dressing up because I can, but I think most of my bridesmaids were planning on sundresses and wedges. I'm sure the guys will be in slacks and a polo." 
    This is exactly what i told people about ours.
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    delujm0 said:
    PDKH said:
    Yeah, don't mention the photographer. I'd feel like you were trying to make sure I look good for YOUR camera, you know?

    My default was telling people what I or H was wearing, or what my sisters/BMs were wearing. "I'm dressing up because I can, but I think most of my bridesmaids were planning on sundresses and wedges. I'm sure the guys will be in slacks and a polo." 
    This is exactly what i told people about ours.
    Me too, except I said jeans and polo/button down shirt for the guys. 
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  • pearlsofsteelpearlsofsteel member
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    A job I did for many years involved event planning and when it came to situations like this, I realized casual chic is always the best bet, IMO. It is the least offensive way to say no frickin' jeans, no sneakers, take a damn shower, etc. You'll more often than not get slacks/khakis from the guys with simple button downs or polos and ladies in something cute, on season, but not OTT. 
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    pearlsofsteel said:
    A job I did for many years involved event planning and when it came to situations like this, I realized casual chic is always the best bet, IMO. It is the least offensive way to say no frickin' jeans, no sneakers, take a damn shower, etc. You'll more often than not get slacks/khakis from the guys with simple button downs or polos and ladies in something cute, on season, but not OTT. 
    Personally I think saying something like, "I think the bridesmaids are wearing _____, and the guys are wearing ______" (in better wording as suggested by many pp's) is the better route than to give some kind of label like casual chic.  I'm pretty fashion savy, but I honestly wouldn't know what causal chic meant.  To me, that might imply that DH can wear nice jeans and a button down or something like that.  But maybe that's just not a term we use around here. 
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  • lovesclimbinglovesclimbing member
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    BMoreBride6 said:
    pearlsofsteel said:
    A job I did for many years involved event planning and when it came to situations like this, I realized casual chic is always the best bet, IMO. It is the least offensive way to say no frickin' jeans, no sneakers, take a damn shower, etc. You'll more often than not get slacks/khakis from the guys with simple button downs or polos and ladies in something cute, on season, but not OTT. 
    Personally I think saying something like, "I think the bridesmaids are wearing _____, and the guys are wearing ______" (in better wording as suggested by many pp's) is the better route than to give some kind of label like casual chic.  I'm pretty fashion savy, but I honestly wouldn't know what causal chic meant.  To me, that might imply that DH can wear nice jeans and a button down or something like that.  But maybe that's just not a term we use around here. 
    If I heard casual chic, I would wear dark jeans, heels or Danskos and a nice top. H would wear either nice jeans or black carhartts and a button down.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    The term "casual chic"  would be meaningless to just about everyone I know because it fails to convey any "no jeans, shorts, sneakers, T-shirts, sweats" etc. message or "please wear khakis, pants, button down shirt" etc.

    If people ask you about attire, I think you need to give a somewhat more detailed description, such as "a nice button down shirt and khakis would be appropriate" or something like that.
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