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Fiancee Lost His Job

dragonaviciousdragonavicious member
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I don't know what to do now. We already were feeling pretty rushed with planning (Wedding Date is May 2nd) but we had everything worked out with all our vendors we just had to put the down payments on them. Now I feel that is fiscally irresponsible to pay for these deposits not knowing if he will have job in time or not. When should the cut off be for planning a wedding next year? It would be our ten year anniversary and we really want it on that day. 
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  • JasperandOpalJasperandOpal member
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    I think you need to look at your finances and account for the worst case scenario.  If FI doesn't get a job before the wedding, will you be able to afford the wedding with the vendors/venue you have currently picked out?  If the answer is no, I think that the solution is to 1) delay the wedding and start planning it again once you FI has a secured position or 2) plan a cheaper wedding that you can afford even if FI doesn't get a job between now and then. 

    As someone who is unemployed planning her wedding I can say that at times it feels awful.  FI and I thought I would have a job lined up by now but it hasn't worked out.  Luckily we realized me not having a job was a possibility and planned accordingly but I often feel guilty that I have so little monetarily to put toward the wedding.
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  • cupcake985cupcake985 member
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    First of all, I am sorry that you have to deal with this.  Wedding planning is already enough stress as it is.  Can you explain the situation to your vendors and possibly re-work your contracts to lower the cost? Opt for a less expensive meal (chicken instead of beef), less flowers, less expansive bar, etc. Do you have receipts for items you have purchased?  Maybe you can find something cheaper or look on the used wedding websites.  You could always cut the guest list down to lower the costs. May is still awhile away so try to take a deep breath.  I am planning to have mine in May and I haven't even booked a venue, yikes!  Good luck :)
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  • mrsmorales2bemrsmorales2be mod
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    Nothing to add here except T & P that something opens up for your FI soon.

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  • dragonaviciousdragonavicious member
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    We are lucky because we didn't put any of the down payments down yet but we were about to, like the next day. The Church and Reception site know we are interested and luckily, we were waiting on them to get back to us so hopefully that will buy us a little time (We had the money but they weren't sure on the exact number for the deposit so they had to ask the board of directors). 

    I am giving it two weeks. If he can't get a job in two weeks we will have to push the wedding back several years. It just sucks because I really wanted to get married on our ten year anniversary, but I also know how important a celebration is to us and our family. I would elope, just so we are finally married, but I feel that I would regret not celebrating our relationship with all the people we love. 
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  • ShannonLeigh1979ShannonLeigh1979 member
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    My fiance just lost his job too.  Luckily, our wedding is over a year out.  It isn't a first wedding for either of us, so we're paying for it and don't want it to be huge anyway.  Life happens.  I hope everything works out for you.
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