Handwriting

[Deleted User] · September 2010

Do the thank-you card have to be in our handwriting or do they just have to be written by us?

I would love for them to be pretty. Each of them would be created different and signed by us, but I would like to use the font I used for our invitations (Thank-you notes and invitations were/are handmade by us) and print them.

therickson · September 2010

They should be handwritten. I understand what you are saying but they mean a lot more if they are written by hand (IMO)

FutureMrsDudley55 · September 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_handwriting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:043788a0-a4e9-4796-a74f-6c8fede36ec3Post:1185df73-4339-45a0-b82c-9f13495c317f">Re: Handwriting</a>:
[QUOTE]I was raised to think every single TY card should be handwritten so I think it should be handwritten too. It's more personal that way. <strong>To me, a typewritten Thank you card screams "LAZY". That's just my opinion though.</strong>
Posted by Champagne Supernova[/QUOTE]

This.

[Deleted User] · September 2010

Wow, even when I handmade, hand-embossed, hand-cut, rubber-stamped, and folded every one? Lazy seems to be pretty harsh. Will my energy or time spent not be seen if the body of the note is typed, even after all that?

[Deleted User] · September 2010

Maybe making the thank-yous artful is a waste?

therickson · September 2010

Not necessarily... but writing them out = more personal than typing.... Even if it is in a pretty font.

AdeleDazeem · September 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_handwriting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:043788a0-a4e9-4796-a74f-6c8fede36ec3Post:130c8bf8-299b-4884-a432-3d9980ef54ca">Re: Handwriting</a>:
[QUOTE]Wow, even when I handmade, hand-embossed, hand-cut, rubber-stamped, and folded every one? Lazy seems to be pretty harsh. Will my energy or time spent not be seen if the body of the note is typed, even after all that?
Posted by Archadia[/QUOTE]

I'm going to be honest here: if I recieved a thank you note like that, I'd think that the person who made all the invitations also made all the thank yous. Maybe it had been personalized to my gift to the couple, but I'd still think that the couple just hired out someone to deal with the thank yous.

They would look nice, certainly! But the goal of a thank you note is to be heartfelt and sincere. Handwriting the note is what conveys that message.

kaederose · September 2010

Handwritten, even if you "handmade, hand-embossed, hand-cut, rubber-stamped, and folded every one", is the indicator most people will go by on how much of your energy you spent thanking them. For all they know, you had someone else make them after you printed a form letter on the TY, changing particulars as needed. Not that this is what you will do, but at least one person will think it. Handwritten notes are so personal, so elegant and definitely the way I would go.

marisah83 · September 2010

Typing them makes them kind of impersonal. Go for hand writing them.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · September 2010

Pretty thank you notes are nice. But the point of thank yous isn't to look pretty. Hell, the thank you can include hand-pressed flowers and pre-recorded music, but if it's typed, it looks like you used the same generic message for everyone (perhaps using find/replace to switch out the name of the gift). The meaning of a thank you note is to write out a heartfelt thank you, no matter what it looks like. It just has to seem genuine. And typing is, etiquette-wise, less personal.

mysticl · September 2010

I don't have a problem with anyone typing them. But then my handwriting is horrible and I am embarrased to let people see it. Writing for any length of time also causes me physical pain. I do not expect some long handwritten thank you from anyone. As long as it's personal I think it's fine. Hey, I didn't get a thank you from the last 2 weddings I went to so a card that said "thanks for the gift" would have been about 5 steps up.

I know my opinion isn't popular but it's mine.

[Deleted User] · September 2010

Well it's too late to buy random cheap pretty Target Thank-You notes. I put a lot of time into these things, and, by golly, I'm going to use them. How I made the trade off is, instead of hand-writing directly onto the thank-you, I am typing the note onto the word processor, running spell check, then copying it by hand on a small, cut card, and gluing it onto the inside of the note.

Then we sign it.

Still artsy, still us. Still DIY and on recycled paper.

It's time consuming, but I have a small wedding and the artistic drive, and figured out a good way to make sure I don't ruin it with handwriting or spelling mistakes.

JanoBean75 · September 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_handwriting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:043788a0-a4e9-4796-a74f-6c8fede36ec3Post:2699ef5c-a189-4c35-9063-a46e677f923f">Re: Handwriting</a>:
[QUOTE]Well it's too late to buy random cheap pretty Target Thank-You notes. I put a lot of time into these things, and, by golly, I'm going to use them. How I made the trade off is, instead of hand-writing directly onto the thank-you, I am typing the note onto the word processor, running spell check,<strong> then copying it by hand on a small, cut card, and gluing it onto the inside of the note</strong>. Then we sign it. Still artsy, still us. Still DIY and on recycled paper. It's time consuming, but I have a small wedding and the artistic drive, and figured out a good way to make sure I don't ruin it with handwriting or spelling mistakes.
Posted by Archadia[/QUOTE]

so you're handwriting them? I'm always scared of spelling something wrong, but I found that if I think too much, then I make a mistake. If I just write, I'm generally fine.

I want to see your cards!

[Deleted User] · September 2010

Definitely handwritten. We bought boxed TY's at Wal-Mart and hand wrote all 100 of them.

brookelynpaisley · September 2010

Maybe lazy is the wrong word. Typed thank you's are impersonal, and that's the opposite of what a genuine and heartfelt showing of thanks should be.

Goldlie11 · September 2010

It's pretty much basic etiquette that TYs should be handwritten. Handwriting is more personal.

jrelich24 · September 2010

Personally - I think you should do what you want, and what you would be OK with receiving from someone else's wedding. I would be happy with any TY because at least I was acknowledged. I have been part of weddings, and guests at weddings where I received nothing back from the bride and grrom.

With all the DIY you added to the TY, if it were me receiving the TY, I would appreciate the time you took for the DIY work, regardless of if it was handwritten or typed.

If you were to receive a typed TY, would you be offended that it was not handwritten? If so, then I would suggest not typing it.

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