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Legal Separation?

PhoneCardLadyPhoneCardLady member
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Recently my sister legally separated from her husband.  Am I required to send an invitation addressed to both of them or are they no longer a social unit?
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Re: Legal Separation?

  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    I would ask your sister which she would prefer. This might be a hard time for her, so putting the ball in her court might alleviate some unintentional hurt feelings.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    I would definitely ask her.
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  • lc07lc07 member
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    Definitely ask. My husband and I are legally separated but still in communication. His best friend is going to invite me to their wedding (so they say). I think it's sweet that they still love me and want things to work out for us. I'm sure my H's best friend asked him about it beforehand.
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  • PhoneCardLadyPhoneCardLady member
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    Thanks for the advice.  The reason for asking is that there have been four functions in the last month (three family birthdays and my nephew's graduation from college) that he didn't bother to show up.  I am totally in the dark about the whole thing but I overheard my sister say legal separation.  That is why I asked.
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  • OnionBreathOnionBreath member
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    PhoneCardLady said:
    Thanks for the advice.  The reason for asking is that there have been four functions in the last month (three family birthdays and my nephew's graduation from college) that he didn't bother to show up.  I am totally in the dark about the whole thing but I overheard my sister say legal separation.  That is why I asked.
    Legal separation isn't divorce, so they are still married.  It makes sense to ask your sister what her preference is.

    Try not to take offense that he didn't attend some family functions.  I don't think it's about "bothering" to show up, I think it's about taking time apart as they see fit.
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    PhoneCardLady said:
    Thanks for the advice.  The reason for asking is that there have been four functions in the last month (three family birthdays and my nephew's graduation from college) that he didn't bother to show up.  I am totally in the dark about the whole thing but I overheard my sister say legal separation.  That is why I asked.
    If you overheard, then 1) you don't know if it's done or simply being considered and 2) she may not want it to be public knowledge.  (Also, legal separation doesn't even exist in many states, so she may have just been talking).

    Ask her.  
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  • PhoneCardLadyPhoneCardLady member
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    OnionBreath said:
    Try not to take offense that he didn't attend some family functions.  I don't think it's about "bothering" to show up, I think it's about taking time apart as they see fit.
    Oh, I never said that I was offended that he didn't show up.
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