Hosted Partial Bar with Cash Bar Option
I will start out by saying that I am not a fan of cash bars at weddings. I don't like when guests have to pull cash out of their own pocket during a hosted reception.
My reception is being held at a golf course that has a fully stocked bar. In order to keep costs reasonable, we are hosting beer (miller lite, yuengling lager, and a craft beer), three varieties of wine (red, white, blush) and a rum punch as a signature cocktail. We feel like this covers a wide variety of tastes.
My venue asked me at our last meeting if we would like to have the full liquor bar open as a cash bar. My initial reaction is no, but my dad and FI say yes. They don't think many people will take advantage of it, but they don't see a problem in the option.
My question is it tacky/wrong to give guests the option of purchasing drinks that aren't hosted?
Re: Hosted Partial Bar with Cash Bar Option
Kimberly -- strict etiquette says to serve only what you host. Guests are not supposed to pull out their wallets during the reception.
You get the prize, Mica!
[QUOTE]You get the prize, Mica!
Posted by abcdejones[/QUOTE]
Well, aren't you clever. **pats head**
*pats head*
Host what you can.
I don't think it looks right to have guests spend money at a reception, even if it's their choice.
[QUOTE]Grits, I know MO is a little behing on the learning curve and doesn't have the greatest school system in the states, but I did say that it was whoever "flocked" (by the way- one person can't flock...but we'll blame that on school system again) in here with the classic TK party line. *pats head*
Posted by abcdejones[/QUOTE]
Haha. Alright. <div>
</div><div>I'll leave it at that.</div>
You have to decide if you will offend your guests more by having them open up their wallets for something that is available but not hosted, or not having the option to buy what they would prefer. I'm not a beer or wine drinker, and picky on my cocktails. I wouldn't be offended if you could only pay for what you could afford, but I would at least like to be able to buy what I do like.
[QUOTE]Wait, where's the influx of biitches coming in here as quick as they can to shout the TK party line? Isn't there a prize for whoever says it first?
Posted by abcdejones[/QUOTE]
It's called the Ettiquette board for a reason. If you want to follow the rules of ettiquette, they are very clear. And people want to know them, so we tell them. By definition, questions have a right answer and a wrong answer. So sue us if we know the right answer.
[QUOTE]Bahaha. Don't wet yourself with how worked up you're getting.
Posted by abcdejones[/QUOTE]
Seriously?
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hosted Partial Bar with Cash Bar Option : Seriously?
Posted by LittleMissCutiePie[/QUOTE]
Pretty childish if you ask me. She won't be getting on anyone's good side comming here and calling everyone biitches right off the bat. <div>
</div><div>But whatever. </div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hosted Partial Bar with Cash Bar Option : Pretty childish if you ask me. She won't be getting on anyone's good side comming here and calling everyone biitches right off the bat. But whatever.
Posted by Grits8812[/QUOTE]
Pretty sure she doesn't care.
I think it is kind of a grey area, since you aren't making them pay for anything and offering multiple choices. In my group, it would be totally acceptable.
My reception is at a restaurant, and I'm hosting just like you (beer/wine/sig.drink). I can't stop my guests from a) asking for another type of drink from the bar at the reception area or b) going to the main bar of the restaurant and ordering their drink there.
That being said, there is nothing wrong with just hosting what you can afford and leaving the options at that if you're at all uncomfortable with the cash bar option. If a guest gets upset because they can't get their favorite cocktail, that says nothing about you. GL!
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Dont advertise it..but if a guest asks, they should be allowed.