How do you say "no gifts" in a way that doesn't sound like "give us cash"?

Re: How do you say "no gifts" in a way that doesn't sound like "give us cash"?

• JellyBean52513 member

  

  July 2014

  You don't everybody knows that gifts are not required, and you can't control or even suggest to people when/how to spend (or not spend) their money. Obviously, don't mention gifts anywhere on or near your invitations. If you have a wedding website, you might consider not even listing your registry there as most people do. That way, the people who really want to buy you something will have to ask you where you're registered, and the people who don't/can't simply will not. 
  
  Which, really, the people who want to get you a gift just will and the people who don't/can't just won't. The best advice I can give is for you to forget all about this "issue" and relieve your mind of the stress that comes from not being able to control the decisions that other people make. 

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• theartistformerlyknownas member

  

  July 2014

  Yup, you don't. People will give what they want/can afford to give.

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• mimivac member

  

  July 2014

  I'll be 40 when I get married and my boyfriend will be 42. We will be merging households before then, and this will be my second marriage. I absolutely do not want anyone to think they need to buy a gift -- especially those who were at my first wedding. I know they are not required, but it is customary so people will still ask about registries, etc. I'll put the word out that we just want their presence at our wedding. I think some people will get gifts anyway, which is sweet. You can't control what people will do, so don't stress too much about it.

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• AddieCake member

  

  July 2014

  The only way is by using a calligraphy pen. It's the only way wedding correspondence will be taken seriously.

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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• chibiyui member

  

  July 2014

  Yep. You don't. You can't dictate what guests give you, period. 

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

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• grumbledore member

  

  July 2014

  melissamusic said:

  There's a group of my guests who I don't want any gifts from. They live far away and most of them are unlikely to be able to make the trip, and I don't want the ones who do make the trip to feel like they have to spend more money on me, and I really don't want the ones who don't make the trip (probably 90% of them) to see my invitation as a gift-grab. How can I tell them "no gifts" in a way that truly means "no gifts"?

  You can't.  Just don't say anything about gifts at all.

  
  

  People will give you gifts if they want to.  That is their choice.

  
  

  

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• arrippa member

  

  July 2014 edited July 2014

  With a poem:

  As appreciated as your gifts may be
  They are not needed as you will see.
  The presence of our family will do
  And make our day special too!!

   

  Kidding, I agree with the PPs. Some people like to give gifts at weddings but you shouldn't say anything.

   

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• bethsmiles member

  

  July 2014

  I've been invited to weddings before where I couldn't attend due to distance and budget. I was fully aware that it was my choice whether or not to send a gift. Sometimes I did and sometimes I didn't. You really don't need to baby your guests. They are adults, they know an invitation doesn't mean they have to send a gift.

  
  

  
  

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