We're from 2 different states, and have both lived in another state for several years. My family is in PA. His is in GA. We own a house in GA.
My father (in his 50s) is having major spinal surgery, and may not be fully recovered by our wedding date.
His parents are in their 80s and apparently refuse to fly.
I've always wanted to get married at my dad's, plus, we wouldn't have any expenses (rentals for reception, hotels, food) if it was there. He asked his parents to come up for the wedding, and they refused to. Refused to fly, and "don't want to" take a road trip up there (even if we were driving them). Although his parents are older, they can get around pretty well. My dad will barely be able to walk me down the aisle :-(
What can I say or do to get them to have the wedding at my dad's??!!! I agreed to just having it in their backyard, but the more I think about it, I don't want to. My family wouldn't be able to make it (Dad would obviously suffer enough to have my brothers drive him down), and the few that would come, would have to pay for hotels 30min away. Only 4-6 people total would be coming for him--even with it in GA. My family's house is large enough to provide them all rooms, plus the neighbor said they'd lend us their summer house for the weekend....so basically they're not paying for a single thing!! ugh...I'm just so stressed :-(
FYI--this is his 3rd wedding/marriage and my 2nd marriage (I eloped to the courthouse the first time)