Timing of WP Gifts

Ndelible · May 2014

We are having a destination wedding in early January 2015, so I was thinking of travel related gifts because most of the our parties also travel quite a bit, for work and pleasure. I plan on getting tasteful over night bags and including robes in the wedding color, both monogrammed with each BM's initials. I'd also like to include white tank tops (we all wear them) for under the robes on the wedding day, BP spa/slumber party. I plan on getting something different for my Bridesman (what I don't know). I would also like to include a bottle of champagne (we are all Veuve women) and something personal to each (one is a reader, one a traveller, one a writer and one a chef). I'd like to give the totes with goodies well before the date, but thinking the personal gift would be great for the day of, We are planning an expedition weekend this July, but that's well before the wedding. The other option would be at the shower, in October. I want to avoid Christmas, so what suggestions for giving the tote gift vs. the personal gift? Groomsmen are probably getting personalized knives, so they will be given prior to the actual wedding weekend to avoid any issues with airport security.

Thanks all!

Blue_Bird · May 2014

Ndelible said:

We are having a destination wedding in early January 2015, so I was thinking of travel related gifts because most of the our parties also travel quite a bit, for work and pleasure. I plan on getting tasteful over night bags and including robes in the wedding color, both monogrammed with each BM's initials. I'd also like to include white tank tops (we all wear them) for under the robes on the wedding day, BP spa/slumber party. I plan on getting something different for my Bridesman (what I don't know). I would also like to include a bottle of champagne (we are all Veuve women) and something personal to each (one is a reader, one a traveller, one a writer and one a chef). I'd like to give the totes with goodies well before the date, but thinking the personal gift would be great for the day of, We are planning an expedition weekend this July, but that's well before the wedding. The other option would be at the shower, in October. I want to avoid Christmas, so what suggestions for giving the tote gift vs. the personal gift? Groomsmen are probably getting personalized knives, so they will be given prior to the actual wedding weekend to avoid any issues with airport security.

Thanks all!

I suggest making everything easy on yourself by skipping the first bolded gifts and giving the second bolded gifts the evening before the wedding.

manateehugger · May 2014

Unless you know for a fact that these ladies need an overnight bag and robe, I'd skip them.

I've been handed multiple totes and overnight backs and getting ready outfits, none of which have ever been useful. I've got my own bags that I use, and they are much better quality than whatever is usually mass-ordered for bridesmaid purposes.

Then just hand over the personal gifts the night before the wedding. I'd get a separate hostess gift for whomever hosts the shower.

Ndelible · May 2014

Thank you for the thoughtful advice. I will consider.

Ndelible · May 2014

I should have stated that all of us are over 45 and travel together quite often. I'm sure they will all love the bag and robe idea. That being said, I will mull it over. After all, it is expensive! As for personal gifts, I may rethink that as well - if I give champagne, we will drink it during the wedding weekend, one of the reasons I was thinking of giving it separately, so they can enjoy it with for their own purposes. I get the idea that many posters on the site have been involved in many weddings; this is not the case for us. One of my gals has never been in a wedding and the other two did it years and years ago. So, there's no stock of "wedding stuff". I'm hoping to give them something tasteful, useful and a little fun.

Thanks again ladies. Plenty to think about.

[Deleted User] · May 2014

I love a good bag, but I do not ever need my initials monogrammed on anything. Save the money on the personalization and get me a slightly better bag. Or get us personalized bags in that mine is the backpack with lots of pockets, the flowered shoulder bag for the girly-girl, a plastic tote for the pool girl, and the giant one-pocket carryall for the sporty yoga goddess. And while I don't want a robe, I love a good hoodie. So, I think you can keep your ideas with a few modifications.

Ndelible · May 2014

TY ADK, I have decided to scale down a bit, taking the next two months to scope out some thing good. As I said, these ladies are Veuve gals, so I'm going to also look for a really nice bottle for each gal, two like slightly sweet and one likes it dry.

artbyallie · May 2014

I don't know any women who use monogrammed things, and that goes double for the women I know over 45. I also don't know any who would wear a robe while getting ready (that makes it sound like there are going to be pictures--no thanks to that as well). However, the gifts that are actually tailored to their tastes sound good. I personally love getting wine any time, the more the better. Frankly, skipping the monogrammed stuff and getting a case of the champagne for each lady sounds like a phenomenal gift IMO.

perdonami · July 2014

I get why it may be better to not monogram any gift provided to the bridal party.. but why is it so tasteless to do so, esp if you are going above and beyond to add an additional gift based on each bridal party attendant's personal taste?

I think I would feel special to not only receive a nice robe with my initials but also another special gift. If I agreed to be in the bridal party, it would be because I love the bride/groom and anything they gave me as a gift to commemorate the occasion would be cherished.

After all, isn't the process of getting married a wonderful experience we want to share with those we are close too?

Ndelible · July 2014

That's funny, cause I asked my gals what they wanted and they all said "monogrammed robes, terry, not waffle, white or lavender!" All are over 45. And they keep asking me where they are. I haven't decided which Etsy shop to go with yet. So, different strokes for different folks!

CMGragain · July 2014

How are you going to transport that champagne? You can't carry it on a plane.

Ndelible · July 2014

That's why a bunch of us are driving! Plus, one of my guests is from Vegas and her sister owns a liquor store. Oh, and the Veuve will be given before the trip, so they can enjoy it at their leisure.

AddieCake · July 2014

I wear an awesome, good-quality robe every day when I get out of the shower, so I would love a good quality one as a gift. The only time I object to the monogrammed robe "gifts" is when brides intend to have photos taken in them.

Ndelible · July 2014

Not sure if they want them to take pictures in. They haven't said. They all travel a lot, so I think they want them as travel robes. They did request short ones, so that's why I think they want to be able to pack them easily.

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