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Invitation Question

Knottie32128310Knottie32128310 member
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We're getting married 10 hours from my hometown. My grandmother is old, widowed and can't travel alone. My mom (her daughter) and I haven't spoken in years and isn't invited, so coming with her is not an option. My grandma has let me know that my aunt will be her "plus one", which I am happy about! See, we're having a small wedding and from our families, only inviting grandparents/parents/siblings+spouses/nieces/nephews. We both have large families riouuso we aren't inviting aunts/uncles/cousins at all. This particular aunt is probably my favorite relative so I'm very happy that she is going to be there.

It's nowhere close to time to send invites (May wedding) but would I send my aunt her own invitation? (Even though I wouldn't be inviting her husband, and not inviting any other aunt/uncle.. I think no on this one!). Do I put my aunt's name on my grandma's invitation? Or do I do the generic "and guest" thing? 
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  • Knottie32128310Knottie32128310 member
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    Sorry for that weird typo!
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  • Sars06Sars06 member
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    You should invite your aunt and her husband. If she's your favorite relative, wouldn't you want to extend her this courtesy anyway?
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  • Knottie32128310Knottie32128310 member
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    Inviting the both of them wasn't one of the options, lol. We are limiting our guest list so we aren't inviting any aunts or uncles. My grandmother is just choosing to bring my aunt as her plus one. I don't know how to address the invitation.
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  • margaritaaamargaritaaa member
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    Knottie32128310 said:
    Inviting the both of them wasn't one of the options, lol. We are limiting our guest list so we aren't inviting any aunts or uncles. My grandmother is just choosing to bring my aunt as her plus one. I don't know how to address the invitation.
    Just send an invite to your grandmother + guest. The two of them can figure it out from there.
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  • Knottie32128310Knottie32128310 member
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    Ok, that's what I was figuring but wasn't sure!
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  • bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    Be aware that if you put "and guest" your grandma can bring whoever she wants. If she changes her mind, you don't get to complain. If you invite your aunt by name her husband must be invited.


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  • Knottie32128310Knottie32128310 member
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    edited July 2014
    I'm well aware of the social unit rules and that "and guest" means "and guest". But since I do know who her guest would be (guys, the only two people who are capable/qualified of traveling with her is my mom and my aunt.. my mom would say no, she abandoned all of her children when she divorced my dad long ago), I was attempting to determine the etiquette for that. After all, you don't use "and guest" for a boyfriend/fiance/etc if you know their name. But I will just use "and guest", thanks all.
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  • BMoreBride6BMoreBride6 member
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    I'd leave it "and guest".  If you invited her by name (regardless of the husband situation) you may be opening yourself up to other aunts getting offended.  This way, you have a clear excuse...grandma choose to bring her as her guest. 
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