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4 weddings the show

Knottie72584342Knottie72584342 member
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So i watched an episode yesterday were one of the girls that was attending another brides wedding stated she will never attend another greek ceremony ever again she would rather skip it and go straight to the reception. I know the reception is supposed to be a thank you for the guest that attended the ceremony(or is it a thank you to the guest who made it period wether to the ceremony or just reception). I'm guessing if someone misses the ceremony because they got lost on their way and shows up to the reception is okay but is missing a ceremony on purpose okay also or just plain rude? (i guess in my head I'm imagining no one showing up to a couples ceremony and suddenly everyone shows to the reception for free drinks and a meal lol wouldn't that be messed up ) i know wether or not they show up to one or the other you still have to cater to them but i was just curious.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    I would never deliberately skip the ceremony.
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  • theartistformerlyknownastheartistformerlyknownas member
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    The only time I've skipped a ceremony before was a Friday afternoon I couldn't get off work in time for. I might pick one or the other if there was a huge gap, but then I'm more likely to go to the ceremony and skip the reception.
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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    I think it's super rude to skip the ceremony just because you don't feel like attending and then go to the reception..
    A guest should not attend the reception if they do not attend the ceremony. Technically speaking.

    Having said that, if I were the bride and knew a guest had, like, work or something... I'd love for them to attend the reception even if they had to miss the ceremony. I guess I feel that way because I know lives don't stop happening the day I get married and I'd rather see my loved ones on that day, no matter what, even if the miss the ceremony.
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    AddieCake said:
    I would never deliberately skip the ceremony.
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    lolo883 said:
    The only time I've skipped a ceremony before was a Friday afternoon I couldn't get off work in time for. I might pick one or the other if there was a huge gap, but then I'm more likely to go to the ceremony and skip the reception.
    that is exactly what i would do also.
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  • Sugargirl1019Sugargirl1019 member
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    From a hosting standpoint, we paid for all those guests. If you RSVP, I hope you will be there. So when H went to see his hair cutter the morning of our wedding, and she didn't show up at all that night.. We were hurt. Like why!?

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  • Knottie72584342Knottie72584342 member
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    Simply Fated said:
    I think it's super rude to skip the ceremony just because you don't feel like attending and then go to the reception.. A guest should not attend the reception if they do not attend the ceremony. Technically speaking. Having said that, if I were the bride and knew a guest had, like, work or something... I'd love for them to attend the reception even if they had to miss the ceremony. I guess I feel that way because I know lives don't stop happening the day I get married and I'd rather see my loved ones on that day, no matter what, even if the miss the ceremony.
    i feel the same way. 
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  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    I've not attended a few weddings. Once it was because I had 2 weddings on the same day. I went to the first wedding and reception. The 2nd wedding was during the first reception, but then had a 3 hour gap. I saw no reason to leave a reception only to go to church and then sit around for 3 hours. Another time the wedding started 2 hours late. A few other times were because of work. As a bride I didn't care. Guess I was more annoyed with no-shows for the reception than no-shows for the ceremony. I was so focused I didn't really know who was there or not. :: shrugs::






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  • jenajjthrjenajjthr member
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    At our wedding I had one co-worker, teacher in my dept - we hang out outside of work, who said that they were RSVP'ing no because they would miss the ceremony/be late to the reception because of his son's baseball game. I told him that I would still love him to be there if he and his family felt okay with trying to make it, talk it over with the wife and let me know. They ended up showing up. I appreciated that he gave me the heads up on why they felt uncomfortable because they didn't want to just show up for the fun part. For me and H it was, we get that their son's obligation came first but still wanted to celebrate what we could with them. 

    Just skipping to skip because you don't like the type of ceremony or something else "better" came up...not good. Skipping because of health reasons or something unforeseen..perfectly reasonable. 
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  • missdelilahmissdelilah member
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    I completely agree with the general sentiments of the PPs.  I think it's incredibly rude to attend a reception if you've skipped the ceremony out of choice.  Hopefully if there's some real reason you can't get to a ceremony but can make it to the reception (i.e. @lolo883 not being able to get off work) the couple will be understanding - and in my experience they usually are - but it's so selfish to miss one of your friends or family members most important life events simply because you may be bored, then come to the after party.
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  • wandajune6wandajune6 member
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    I'd say that I would never skip a ceremony then go to the reception but I've done it twice:

    1. A Mormon ceremony where we could only wait outside. There was also a gap so she told us that there was no problem if we skipped. I skipped it but feel bad about it now.

    2. My flight was delayed by 6 hours. I decided that it was better to skip the ceremony than be late and possibly disruptive.
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  • LakeR2014LakeR2014 member
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    I've never skipped a ceremony and attended a reception or vice versa.

    That being said - I was at a wedding a few weekends ago that had a 5 HOUR gap.   It was very noticeable that a lot of people opted out of attending the ceremony and still attended the reception.   After experiencing the 5-hour gap...I kinda envied them.
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  • bleidigbleidig member
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    I love that show, another wedding show that my FI hates of course lol. I say you know what you are getting into when it comes to long ceremonies, suck it up because that is that couples moment not yours. People are so selfish.
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  • bucksgirl414bucksgirl414 member
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    I love that show too. One that was on I think today was at the place at had my first wedding (15 NO SHOWS BTW) it was neat to see a place you know.

    But WOW the brides are brutally honest lol... could you imagine watching the show after the fact and hearing all the negative???
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