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NWR: baby shower question

Is it strange to have a baby shower after the baby arrives? My cousin and his wife have been trying to adopt for about 6 years and on Monday they finally got a little girl. Yay! The thing is they were totally unprepared. The people who were originally going to adopt the girl found out they were pregnant and decided to pass up on the adoption. So my cousin and wife literally got the call on Saturday night asking if they would adopt the baby. So a couple other cousins and I were thinking about throwing a shower for them so they can get some not as crucial essentials that they are going to need. Would this be against etiquette or are we ok here?

Re: NWR: baby shower question

  • It's not against etiquette at all (I'm assuming this is their first baby)

    My daughter attended her own baby shower because she came 3 months early and it took that long to get her home from NNICU.  Our friends gave a coed cocktail shower for us.

    My niece was adopted at 6 weeks under similar circumstances as your cousin and we gave the biggest shower NYC has ever seen!

  • I think it's awesome.
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • I think you're good, I'd want to throw a big ass shower too. Congrats to your cousin!
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  • I thought we were in the clear but I wanted to double check. We are all so freaking excited. These two have had such a rough time with it. They have had three disappointments before they finally got this baby. I know they were starting to lose hope. Yay! I get to plan a baby shower.
  • It's not strange at all.  They should absolutely have a shower!
  • Go for it and congrats to your family!
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    I agree yes to the shower. Also, how exciting and wonderful and YAY.
  • Have fun. I'm in the camp that it's better to throw the adoption shower after the child comes home because the birth mother can change her mind up to the final moment.
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  • Congrats to them! I don't think it's strange at all. 
  • Congratulations to them! Throw a kick ass party.
  • Throw the hell out of that shower. Congratulations to your cousin!

    Honestly, we had a family and family friends shower for my sister a month after my nephew was born because that's the only time we could get everyone together. Sue us and our wanting to celebrate the birth of an awesome baby. 
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  • BTW takes lots and lots of pictures to show the baby someday. Those kinds of things can really help adopted kids to understand just how much they were wanted.  
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  • I also think it's fine so,
    YAYYYYY for your cousin!
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