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FIs Grandmother is 95 years old and she won't be able to make it to the wedding.
We would really love to have a part of her at our wedding though... I know FI and FIs father would love it too.

Any ideas?

We were thinking of going and getting some nice pictures with her and framing one and having it up at the wedding. 
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  • Lauderdale PinkLauderdale Pink member
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    I love the idea of honoring grandparents at weddings.  If you set up a picture table with other family photos, and pics of the bride and groom, then including a photo with grandma will be nice.  If it is just a picture of grandma, guests might get the misguided idea that it is a memorial.  Where does grandma live?  Is there anybody who can be with her during the ceremony who can face time or skype it with her?
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  • jynxiiejynxiie member
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    That is a very good point. I definitely don't want it to look like a memorial.
    She only lives 1.5 hours away. But she went to a wedding about a year ago that was just down the street with FIs family and they said they had to bring her home after an hour. So we know she wouldn't be able to make the trip.

    I don't believe she would understand what was happening with skype unfortunately.  
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  • theartistformerlyknownastheartistformerlyknownas member
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    I would definitely get the impression that she had passed away if there was a framed photo of her at the wedding. 

    Does she have anything you could use as your something borrowed or old? Or would she like to choose one of your readings?

    What about sending her a small flower arrangement similar to your wedding flowers on the day of, so she knows you're thinking about her? 
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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    NO!  Invite her to your wedding.  She will send regrets.  See if someone can Skype for her at your reception for a few minutes to say hello.
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  • manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    I vote seeing if she has someone around who can help her watch a live feed of the ceremony and/or making a phone call to her at some point. Be sure to send her pictures!

    I also think sending her a small arrangement in your wedding colors would be really sweet. 
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  • mileybangerzmileybangerz member
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    CMGragain said:
    NO!  Invite her to your wedding.  She will send regrets.  See if someone can Skype for her at your reception for a few minutes to say hello.
    Um, I think they already invited her.  And she can't make it. 
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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    mileybangerz said:
    CMGragain said:
    NO!  Invite her to your wedding.  She will send regrets.  See if someone can Skype for her at your reception for a few minutes to say hello.
    Um, I think they already invited her.  And she can't make it. 
    OP didn't say the invitations had been sent, yet.  Chill.
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    CMGragain said:
    mileybangerz said:
    CMGragain said:
    NO!  Invite her to your wedding.  She will send regrets.  See if someone can Skype for her at your reception for a few minutes to say hello.
    Um, I think they already invited her.  And she can't make it. 
    OP didn't say the invitations had been sent, yet.  Chill.
    I wasn't the one who replied with "NO!".  Sounds like you need to take your own advice and chill.
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  • Lauderdale PinkLauderdale Pink member
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    My dad will be missing my son's wedding.  At his age, he just cannot deal with colder temperatures and seems to develop pneumonia whenever he has to.  At 80 years old, he has learned to skype, so we are going to see if somebody at the ceremony can help us out.  To the OP, you are a great and gracious lady for trying to figure this one out.
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  • jynxiiejynxiie member
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    Sorry, I should of included that the invitations have been sent out.
    But the family have decided she wouldn't be able to make the trip.

    His grandmother isn't mentally herself any longer, she just knows who we are when we're there with her in person but doesn't understand who we are when others talk about us (Or over the phone). She's a fantastic woman though and loves FI very much, they have a very close and unique bond. She doesn't remember names but when she sees us in person is when she gets very excited. We have told her we are getting married and unfortunately she doesn't understand.

    It's not that anyone couldn't skype it for her, she does live in a community so I am sure a nurse would be able to help her out - I'm just sure she wouldn't understand what she was watching.

    But I really want to include her for my FI (as well as their side of the family) as well as honor her as she's a doll. The sweetest woman I have met.

    I will definitely be bringing her pictures as well as I think she would really enjoy an arrangement.
    I'm more conflicted on how to honor her at the reception for FIs family. This is his only living grandparent so I do think it's important to honor her.

    Also thank you guys!
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    jynxiie said:
    Sorry, I should of included that the invitations have been sent out.
    But the family have decided she wouldn't be able to make the trip.

    His grandmother isn't mentally herself any longer, she just knows who we are when we're there with her in person but doesn't understand who we are when others talk about us (Or over the phone). She's a fantastic woman though and loves FI very much, they have a very close and unique bond. She doesn't remember names but when she sees us in person is when she gets very excited. We have told her we are getting married and unfortunately she doesn't understand.

    It's not that anyone couldn't skype it for her, she does live in a community so I am sure a nurse would be able to help her out - I'm just sure she wouldn't understand what she was watching.

    But I really want to include her for my FI (as well as their side of the family) as well as honor her as she's a doll. The sweetest woman I have met.

    I will definitely be bringing her pictures as well as I think she would really enjoy an arrangement.
    I'm more conflicted on how to honor her at the reception for FIs family. This is his only living grandparent so I do think it's important to honor her.

    Also thank you guys!
    There really isn't a way to appropriately honor people who are alive but not present at a wedding reception. It's just not something that's traditionally done; that's why people are having trouble giving you more suggestions. The place to honor important family members is in the ceremony programs, not the reception. The reception is a thank you to the guests who ARE there. I think personal touches would be more fitting - like carrying something of hers - rather than a public homage that will look more like a memorial. The only public tribute I can think that would be appropriate would be to have a larger display of all the past generations' wedding photos. Being wedding-related makes it more relevant, although that gets sticky if you have any failed marriages you don't particularly want to call attention to.
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  • holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 member
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    It's really great that you want to honor her. Just make sure that you discuss any plans with your FI and FILs before you do anything, as this is his side of the family.




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