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King's Table

edited August 2014 in Wedding Reception Forum
So, my plan all along was going to be to do basically what I think is called a Kings Table rather than a head table or sweetheart table. I am doing this because a. I obviously don't want to split the BM/GM from their dates and b. several of the bridal party members and their dates will know only people in the BP, so it makes logical sense to sit them all together rather than apart and c. I'm a little selfish and I want to sit with my friends at my wedding reception! 

 So here's my dilemma... one of the GM is coming with his wife and 3 small children. I'm really ambivalent about having kids up with us. I could get used to it if I have to but I'm kind of ... eh. However, some of FIs friends (friends with this GM and his wife) will be there with their small kids (friends with GMs kids). So I guess I'm trying to decide between the following:  

 1. Sit GM with us and his wife has a chair both at our table and a chair at table with FIs friends and their kids 

 2. Sit GM and wife and kids at the kings table 

 3. Sit both GM and wife away from kings table but still have rest of BP and SOs with us 

 4. Scrap the whole kings table idea? 

 I'm sure there's a simple solution here, but I need some advice, please!

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Re: King's Table

  • Well, since you really can't separate parents from small kids, if you don't want kids at the king's table, then don't do a king's table.  I don't think it would be a good idea to put one GM, his wife, and their kids at a different table simply because of the kids while the others all sit at the king's table-that could be noticed and seen as discrimination against a family.

    So, I'd either allow the kids to sit at the king's table or scrap the king's table and either have a sweetheart table, or just have your immediate family members and SOs sit at your table with you and have your wedding party members sit at other tables.
  • #2. Friends want to sit together. Are you sure they're bringing the children?
  • #1 does not work because the children's mother is not going to leave her small children unattended at the other table while she floats between it and the Kings table. It would be incredibly rude to ask those other guests to take on the supervision of 3 more children. So even though there is a chair for her at the Kings table you are still excluding her. #3 is flat out rude and treats that groomsman and his wife as different and less important to you than everyone else in your wedding. #2 and #4 are your best options. Possible option: I was in a wedding where the bride and groom had a sweetheart table and then there were two regular tables for the wedding party, their SOs, and their children.
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  • Thanks for the input guys. I had originally planned this when they said they weren't bringing their kids but then they decided to... so back to the drawing board, I guess. For what it's worth, GM's wife is good friends with all the rest of the GM and 2 of my BMs. But I hear you. BUT, if I sit them all (kids included) at the table with us, is that still ok?
  • SarahRN87 said:
    Thanks for the input guys. I had originally planned this when they said they weren't bringing their kids but then they decided to... so back to the drawing board, I guess. For what it's worth, GM's wife is good friends with all the rest of the GM and 2 of my BMs. But I hear you. BUT, if I sit them all (kids included) at the table with us, is that still ok?
    Absolutely.  It's the splitting a family up or excluding one groomsman that is the issue.  
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  • mysticl said:
    SarahRN87 said:
    Thanks for the input guys. I had originally planned this when they said they weren't bringing their kids but then they decided to... so back to the drawing board, I guess. For what it's worth, GM's wife is good friends with all the rest of the GM and 2 of my BMs. But I hear you. BUT, if I sit them all (kids included) at the table with us, is that still ok?
    Absolutely.  It's the splitting a family up or excluding one groomsman that is the issue.  
    Totally agree with this. Kids at the kings table: adorable. Putting one GM and his family elsewhere: shitty.
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