Hello Ladies,
My good friend is getting married next month and her father is not in the picture and she has no other significant males other then her soon to be hubby. She wants to do something for a father daughter dance or in place of the father daughter dance she doesn't want to feel left out when her hubby is dancing with his mom. Any cute ideas that you have seen would be great. Shes really bummed about this part of the wedding.
Thanks Girls!!
Re: Father daughter dance
She could dance with her mom. Or her new FIL.
At daughter's wedding there was no mother-son dance because FMIL was disabled, and didn't want to do it. We just skipped it. NO big deal.
But a PARENTS DANCE. I love this, this is great. One dance, two birds. I won't feel awkward about everyone staring at me and my father who don't get on so well because attention will be split. Hurrah!
Thank you, @climbingbrideNY!
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It's not all about what one person wants. Everyone's feelings have to be taken into consideration. The guests are not being invited to a memorial service. Some forms of "remembrance" at weddings are not appropriate-especially ones that can really add a sense of macabre to the atmosphere. Photos on seats are among them. That's why regulars here tend to advise against this. And they know what they're talking about-they've experienced losses and even witnessed people putting photos on empty seats and seen and heard what happened.
You can disagree all you like, but I think you are not going to change the mind of anyone who disagrees with you about this-including me.
But sorry, I disagree that "it's all a matter of opinion." As I said, there are times and places when really lugubrious forms of mourning are not appropriate. Weddings are among them. Private and subtle forms of remembrance, like the bolded, are fine because they do not compel others who are not in mourning for the deceased to feel sad along with you. But photos or flowers on empty chairs can do that. And people besides the bride can see them.
Etiquette is not just "a matter of opinion." Having differing opinions does not exempt you from observing proper etiquette-even when you're grieving.
And by "regular," you're still relatively new. Most "regular" posters have been here longer than you.